God bless you,
In todays series I just want to make sure your married or maybe engaged to get married soon but very soon. I don’t want anybody to get tempted by these writings and go haunt themselves a husband or wife down for the wrong reasons.
Ok, here we go. I told you yesterday about some problems that marriage can face. I didn’t told all of although we experienced financial problems, miscommunication and maybe even thought at some point of quitting what God has brought together. I thank God today that His love and grace was with us. The beautiful thing for us was that when the one was down, the other one had a little bit of strength and patience to stretch in faith and prayer to uplift one and other. A life of prayer is necessary when you are married.
Today I want to share with you how to communicate love to your spouse and how to keep the flame burning despite the fact that the butterflies effect doesn’t always work after you been a while with each other.
Many times when you hear that something went wrong and the woman/man committed adultery is because something was missing they were getting attention elsewhere that they didn’t get at home. Make sure home is well taken care in every aspect. Sometimes you have to sit down talk things trough so you know the desires of your partner, pray about it and be one flesh in it. Make sure you have a compromise that fills both of you it’s desires.
Love own it’s own language and knows 5 compounds;
Passion: Sometimes sexual relationship is the last thing a woman thinks about. Why? Because she has a whole household to run, work, tension emotionally, tired and there are many reasons more to write. But actually sex is God design for a married couple, so it has to be on the priority list. It is important to fulfil the desires of the man. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
As you know you can pray for everything; Woman pray that God strengthens you, revitalise you, gives you energy and a good attitude so that both of you can enjoy the moment! Men: (Proverbs 5:18-19)
“18 May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”
Companionship: God thought is not good for the man to be alone and created the woman, a helper.. Then when God thought the should become one in flesh he sad in verse 24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:22-25)
Affection: (Songs of songs 2:6)
“His left arm is under my head,
and his right arm embraces me.”
A touch feels good sometimes, a hug, a kiss, holdings hands while walking downtown.. Things that demonstrate attention and you are still in love. It doesn’t necessarily means that it has to lead to sex. Spice things up enjoy each other and be contempt to have each other.
Compassion: (Ephesians 4:29-32) I’ll highlight verse 32 32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” It is a request to be compassionate. Just follow the example Christ gave to us His bride!
The love of giving gifts: (Genesis chapter 27 till 32) I’m going to point a historical part out of the scripture even though this is an example of brotherly love its is important to give gifts; It’s the story of Esau and Jacob. Esau was mad at Jacob because he thought and was a fact that
- He took his birthright, and now he’s taken his blessing
- Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him.
- Esau was planning to avenge himself by killing Jacob
- So Jacob fleet to his uncle Laban in Haran. After Jacob stayed their for 7 years in order to get Rachel as wife, he got Leah instead because she was the oldest and the first that was supposed to get married. But Jacob loved Rachel so much that he had sacrificed another 7 years of work in order to get Rachel.
- Now the time has come that the Lord said to Jacob, “Go back to the land of your fathers and to your relatives, and I will be with you.
What now happend was is that Jacob was still afraid of his brother so he sent messengers before him with all kinds of gifts to make things right. (Genesis 32:6–21, 33:4–11)
Not only in times of problems you bring gifts but a flower after work or something you know that will please your partner.
I’ll fess up I love the branch of Guess so every time I get something of Guess I’m pleased. But in the same way I love to surprise my husband with little gifts, it makes him happy and is feeling appreciated and respected.
I know this was long to read, but I hope it helped. Be blessed.
Remember do as it work for the both of you.
With loving regards,