God bless you,
It has been a while since I blogged with regularity, but as you may know my mother was battling cancer and last week the Lord called her to be home with Him. You may be wondering how am I doing well the only thing that I can say right now is; “I’m doing my best to make things work even thou the circumstances and as you also know the strength of the Lord is my joy. You see Nehemiah said in Chapter 8 verse 9b-11
“This day is holy to the Lord your God. Do not mourn or weep.” For all the people had been weeping as they listened to the words of the Law.10 Nehemiah said, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” 11 The Levites calmed all the people, saying, “Be still, for this is a holy day. Do not grieve.”
Grieve is a feeling of a great amount of sorrow at the same time. For some it takes longer to accept – adjust – and to let go. You see it is good to feel the pain and mourn someone, but you have to realise also that you cannot live in pain for the rest of your life and bitter. A part of processing is to recognise and know that the place your loved one is in, their will be no pain (this is if the person lived a good christian life and accepted Jesus as his Saviour and when the person asked for forgiveness for all that has been done that doesn’t please God), then there is hope that we all will be reunited when Jesus comes back. (1 Thessalonians 4:13-18)
If you take a look at king David he did some things that didn’t please God like when he took the wife of Uriah, Bathsheba. (2 Samuel 11 + 12) Bathsheba became pregnant and David had to cover up some thing so he set Uriah up to fight in a position where he would be killed instantly. After the time of mourning past (which wasn’t long thereafter) he took Bathsheba as his wife and she bore him a son. God spared David but didn’t spare his son so illness came upon the son of David and he past away. Now this is David his reaction in verse 18-22 of chapter 12 “18 On the seventh day the child died. David’s attendants were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they thought, “While the child was still living, he wouldn’t listen to us when we spoke to him. How can we now tell him the child is dead? He may do something desperate.” 19 David noticed that his attendants were whispering among themselves, and he realised the child was dead. “Is the child dead?” he asked.“Yes,” they replied, “he is dead.” 20 Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on lotions and changed his clothes, he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. Then he went to his own house, and at his request they served him food, and he ate. 21 His attendants asked him, “Why are you acting this way? While the child was alive, you fasted and wept, but now that the child is dead, you get up and eat!” 22 He answered, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows? The Lord may be gracious to me and let the child live.’ 23 But now that he is dead, why should I go on fasting? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.”
Even in this time of great loss David got up and he went to the house of the Lord and worshipped. Sometimes we mourn longer than is needed. (no one can condemn you of how long you have to grieve as long as you know that there is hope in Jesus and that making a decision to move on has to be yours to made. This mean accepting the fact that your loved one won’t be coming back right now and that God never intended for you to be pained by losses but it is necessary.) We want the pain to be a reminder of who your loved one was. This is not necessary while you can have great memories that will fill you with hope and let the love keep on growing even if the person isn’t physically present. Jesus was pained when He heard that Lazarus had past away. He cried over it and moved on. His next step than was to resurrect Lazarus so He did.
God is the author of life, sometimes you don’t get a answer of why that person had to die, but know that when they die in the Lord there will be a festive engagement in heaven. Celebrate their soul in heaven. I know it is hard I have my days, sometimes mood changing but when I think about God his greatness and love and peace I know that beside God and in His presence is where I want to be. He will heal those of broken heart
18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Matthew 5:4 says “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” God will take care of you let Him in and work His ways. Remember everything He does He knows why. Every stage you go through there will be changes and sometimes it requires us to step out of our comfort zone and depend completely upon God. New directions, new things.
Be blessed. You may not agree right now but this is how God work. He is not to blame. This is the truth. Job lost everything but still his hope clinked in God.
With loving regards.
PS: CERTAIN LOVED ONES JUST CANNOT BE REPLACED ONLY GOD CAN FILL UP THE EMPTY SPACE YOU HAVE LEFT IN YOUR CHEST. SO ASK GOD TO HELP YOU DEAL WITH THE PAIN AND COVER YOU WITH HIS LOVE AND GRACE.