A strategic God


Hey there today I’m going to write you out of the subject “A strategic God” – it will be a expository writing so bear with me and we will get through this writing. The text that has my attention is written in 2 Kings 4:1-7

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“My legacy” (Series on kids)


Blessings to you and yours. This past week was one with many trials and I’ve experienced a lot of oppression but thank God we made it to the final writing of these series on kids. The topic I’m writing from today is “My legacy”. There are few definition you can find on the term legacy but when it comes to this context these two definitions do fit.

  1. anything handed down from the past, as from an ancestor or predecessor:
  2. an applicant to or student at a school that was attended by his or her parent.

Ad. 1 You may ask what is it that I past on to my children and the next generation there after. Well it’s plain an simple. The teachings of the bible may be engraved into their hearts as The Word of God traveled through generations out. As been pointed out before it is my duty to start them off right in the way they should go. It’s my responsibility to teach them the Word of God, How to pray, What worship really means and why it is so important to stay in the Lord that He may stay in us.

Ad. 2 You may ask which school I attended to well I’ve been to school with Jesus (Books of Matthew – Mark – Luke and John), After this I’ve attended college at the Word of God. (Thru the Bible), and now I’m attending at the University of the Holy Spirit as John and Peter. (As in the book of Acts.) This is what I’m going to teach them, so when they grow old they will know where they came from and that it is their duty to pass on these teachings to the next generations.

You see the bible says in Proverbs 17:6 Old people are distinguished by grandchildren;
children take pride in their parents.” (MSG version)

You see grandchildren are a crown to the age, they bring joy to them, they are being spoiled by their grandparents (if it where you doing something that was not supposed to at that age it may have turn out completely different, now you hear leave them be)

Children take pride in their parents. In order to be their pride you must have done something good, like loving them, educating them (spiritually), feeding them, clothing them, covering them (prayer), helping them, being compassionate to them etc.

The bible says in Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and mother so that you’ll live a long time in the land that God, your God, is giving you.” While reading this you can read also that you need to give them something so they can honor you in, bring them up, learning them the ways of the Lord and giving them the space to serve before the Lord. While providing this, they will experience their own relationship with God. A kid can only honor what they know. When the Psalmist is writing in Psalms 119:9 how young people can keep their paths clean How can a young person stay on the path of purity?
 By living according to your word.” Further more the scripture also says that we need to keep the commandments in our hearts.

Proverbs 1:8 states the following :Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” This right here implies that both the father and the mother has a role in imparting Godly wisdom into their kids. Both has a task to fulfil. As it was my mothers task to bring me to church, teach me about God’s word and start me off right. Believe me, I wasn’t always as behaved as I am today. I can clearly remember one day  I was rebelling against her and she said in a very calm and serious way “I fear for you, do not forget that one day you will have your one kids and they will act out as worse or worser than you just did.” With other words what you sow you will reap. This right here got me thinking, had shaken me, woke me up. I didn’t want to be that kind of person, I wanted to change, that kind of change you experience when you meet God and has encounter Jesus following by living through the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

Many of the chapters in the book of Proverbs has this line written My son, keep my words and store up my commands within you.” (Proverbs 1:8 ; 2:1 (willingness) ; 3:1, 4:1,4 ; 5:1,7 ; 6:20 ; 7:1 ; 8:10-11, 32-34 ; and so one in the following chapters. If you seek for this line you’ll find it integrated in every chapter. This here shows us that as parents, we need to repeat our selfs more than ones, more than twice. Their whole life we need to impart in them with love, kindness, compassion, grace… You see they need to be willing to develop their zeal for God’s teachings, Word. They need to know to fear the Lord. Not by pressing on to them  just by saying you must, you must, you must, cause this will led to rebellion. After this they don’t want to listen anymore but by modelling it to them it will penetrate into their hearts. As we have been instructed with love, patience sometimes in parables, sometimes just by questions asked that puts us to thinking for ourselves what would Jesus do. Learn them to pray about it and find out what is God’s desire. Learn them to live a holy life led by the Holy Spirit.

You can see through generations how the Word of God is passed down, this legacy is passed down in the lineage of Jesus (Matthew 1:1-17) This is a legacy that is continuing to be passed down to others. We will start in our own home and from their we are to spread it out. That is why we can read in John 1:1-5 “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome[a] it.

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By repeating the Word on a daily basis it becomes part of a child it will be like a natural instinct. Like when somebody invites them to steal or do something against God’s will, they need to know what the bible says about stealing or any other topic of the matter. Kids need to be able and given the chance to develop that kind of attitude that comes in alignment with what the word of God says. Attitude is a certain behaviour to a certain subject/topic. You will act conforming that which you know and  have experienced. It is simply a settled way of thinking or feeling about something. 

As parent patience is they key word to instruct a kid. You see not every kid is the same and to be compared they have their own characters. They are unique and needs to be handled with care. They are innocent and fragile. They are in the molding process.

What does the bible says about spanking? (I don’t refer to abuse!!)  The books of Proverbs is a guideline for us to bring our children up Proverbs 13:24 ; 23:13-14 ; 29:15,17 ; 22:15. However it serves as good in our own relationship towards our Heavenly Father.

Practical teachings, this is a method I myself apply it’s a 7-steps plan provided by Focus on the family is: (optional but it is biblical though, everyone has their one ways and know their kids better) – my kids have the ages of four and six so this works perfectly in our home.

  • Clear warning: this a warning that certain behaviour will not be tolerated.
  • Establish responsibility: a child needs to own up his/her misbehaviour. This an example how this step can be achieved:”Bounty/Boopy, what did you do wrong?””Nothing. All the kids were running in the hallways of the church building.”

    “Try again. What did you do wrong?”

    “I ran into the hallways …”

    “I’m going to give you one more chance. What did we talk about?”

    “I’m not supposed to run in the hallways of the church building.”

    “So what did you do wrong?”

    “I disobeyed you.”

  • Avoid embarrassment: All this accomplishes is shame. Take them to a private place or wait until getting home. I had the learn this cause I was brought up in another form so never knew what the damage actually was. So now I just wait or if it is a serious matter I call them in a private place to talk about the matter or I just whisper into their ears.
  • Communicate grief: I don’t want to necessarily know that I am angry but I do want to communicate that I am disappointed in certain misbehaviour and that it should not happen again. Or I just let them know that my trust has been violated cause they knew better. You see as parent our self we live in a sinful world and when we fall short of the glory God looks a at us with a grieving heart just as a loving Father.
  • Flick your wrist: Spanking – It’s to sting, to provide a painful deterrent to misbehaviour, not to injure. “When you spank, use a wooden spoon or some other appropriately sized paddle and flick your wrist. That’s all the force you need. It ought to hurt — an especially difficult goal for mothers to accept —  and it’s okay if it produces a few tears and sniffles. If it doesn’t hurt, it isn’t really discipline, and ultimately it isn’t very loving because it will not be effective in modifying the child’s behaviour.”
  • Sincere repentance: After a spanking we call them my husband or I call them and this is the perfect time we can and will model love and let them sit over our lap, hugging and just talk about what happened. I don’t like spanking, so I often say sorry as they ask for forgiveness and excuses them self for the misbehaviour. These dialogues trains them up for a life relationship with God. A life of relating to God humbly and honestly as no other experience could experience.
  • Unconditional love: Some of my most intimate times with my children is after a moment of discipline, my husband can testify about this. I will call the kids, and tell them that I am sorry but that sometimes it is necessarily, I will tell them how much I love them and that I don’t like those kind of moments so together we can work on the missing things to prevent the same misbehaviour to happen a next time. This learns them that God forgives us for our sins but that we must really repent at the core of our heart to not repeat the same mistakes over and over.

This was the final writing of the series on kids. I hope you’ve enjoyed it as much as I have. I pray that these words will bring transformation and be a blessing of any kind to you. Through trial and tribulations but I made it an you made it.

Be blessed.

With loving regards,

Shaina Li Domitilia-Margaritha

 

“My Household” (series on kids)


Blessings, here am I in the early mornings writing to you again with the follow up on my earlier blog “Little imitators”. Today I am going to speak out of the topic “My household”, as long as you understand that this is a spiritual matter that needs to be point out. When I am writing to you is not out of the carnal point of view. For as the Word of God is revealed to me in secret, in the same way I will make it public and  bring it to you without the need to make it  acceptable for you. You see the Word of God serves as revelation, to alert, a wake up call, as for it is written in the bible “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” – Hebrew 4:12. It aches when we are not aligned with the Word of God. We tend to rebel against it, instead of leaving our own ways and turn to God, we go mad.

A vivid example of this is the story of king Saul. He was chosen by the people of Israel, but Saul misused his power, he stopped following God orders and did things as it pleased himself. Than there came David a simple boy that shepherd the flock. Everybody is singing and saying Saul killed thousands but David killed ten thousands.  King Saul is not pleased, he is jealous at the one God appointed and anointed to be the follow up. He is jealous at the one God qualified. So king Saul is now rejected by God and King David is installed. When we rebel against the will and word of God the bible describes it like sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry. (1 Samuel 15:23) Let’s be intentional about the word of God and stop pretending and live by the standards of God. Stop the slandering of God’s children for we must account to Him what we did with His flock. Then came King David he wasn’t perfect neither but God still used Him. The word of God came to him through the servant Nathan (2 Samuel 12:7, 9, 13 and following verses) it ached David, he was ashamed and he confessed. The confession King David made is readable in Psalm 51. The consequences were still there even though he was pardoned for his actions.  (I’m jumping through the text) but when you study the bible around the topic Eli – Samuel – Saul – David while reading it, it will be made clear. 

So when God speaks to me how to manage my household I must listen (those that have ears to hear, listen – than the Bible says don’t be only listeners of the Word but doers of the word, this means live by God’s word, I must follow in what He is saying, I must fear God and I must start in my own household.. I need to make sure that my offspring grows up and be like Samuel who picked David as the one God had chosen. He grew in wisdom and stature (1 Samuel 2:26). At a very young age he could here God calling out for him, the only thing he had to say is “Speak Lord for Your servant listens”. I need to make sure my kids grow up in wisdom and stature just as Jesus (Luke 2:52) at a young age He was found in the temple courts among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. The hunger of God’s word consumes me, as David saith “for zeal for your house consumes me, and the insults of those who insult you fall on me” Psalm 69:9. 

Timothy the spiritual son of Paul wrote in his letters the following 1 Timothy 3: 4-5 (Elders) He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full[a] respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)”  Now a days we feel sorry for the kids, in the community now a days you hear people say, a kid must be a kid, you find people against the fact the of kids learning to preach at small age or learning to serve God properly. We leave a lot of years go by while they are being touted elsewhere. There is no time left. Christ is coming, what have we done all these years. We are not supposed to grow children to sit, the must develop into disciples 

Then he writes again addressing now the deacons in vs. 12 “A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well.” 

As leaders, pastors or what the calling/ title may be, maybe we are just parens, but leaders and models in our own homes everything starts at home. The bible points out our duties as described in Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers,[a] do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”  This is the same as the writing as in Proverbs 22:6. I can’t minister to your home without ministering my own home. If I do so, this kind of attitude will be called a act of hypocrisy. I got to get it right first before I can help you. Whatever the arena may be I can’t help you with marital problems if I never been married and never experienced any kind of these problems and feelings. I cannot bring you to a place, where I myself never been there before. (spiritual)

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The consequence of the actions of Eli’s sons brought death to Eli and sons. Eli knew what his sons were doing, but didn’t address it. We need to take care of our kids and stand up for the next generation. Some things are nature but there are some things that are nurtured, we must cultivate children with what is pleasing to the Lord. There need to be preparation. Otherwise they’ll grow with lack of knowledge. The bible says in Hosea 4:6 my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. “Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children.” is this what we want? Don’t we have fear anymore for the things of the Lord? May God have mercy on us.. Jesus prayed to the Father and saith: Forgive them cause they don’t know what they are doing”

Experience: A while ago I was in the grocery store buying grocery and I was found standing in the back of the store looking at the salads, then suddenly I heard a warning call. As soon as I heard this I started praying in my inner self, cause I could not see what was happening due I was in the back of the store but I knew for sure something was happening I could feel my inner tranquility stirring inside me. That what was going on  at the time took place in the front at the main entrance/exit. I was thinking by myself Lord let me get home save to my husband and children. So while praying and gathering the goods I needed from the grocery I walked to the counter to pay for my grocery so I can get home safe. As I was approaching I saw two little boys around the age of 6 without any adult supervision, they were holding a pot of candy into there hands. They were shoplifting and the warning call was from all the people standing at the counter who saw them about to leave the store without actually paying for the candy pot. So they put those two boys in the corner and called another co-worker to handle the situation. They took the boys into the office and called for their parents. I was so shocked that I thought I need to get home fast and have another prep talk with my kids. Even though they know they are not suppose to steal or take something that is not paid for I wanted to ensure it. But the more I thought about the situation I was thinking where were the parents, the adults around that time. Are we tryin’ hard enough to see our kids start off right. What is it that we are teaching them that when we are not around they can put into practice and know that is not permitted to take something without paying for. Are we praying enough for them, are we spending enough time with them, are we hearing them out.

See I’m not perfect I’m full of rules ugghh (a part of how I was educated myself). As I start a conversation with my daughters and ask them about things they will say: “we are sometimes afraid to come tell you cause we know that you may get mad”. It is that moment that I need to balance and seek for a solution that will help them to get it right the next time and be open about it. I need to meet them in their needs and function behaviour, I need to re-evaluate myself,  I need to find the way to communicate to them until the point they know certain behaviour is not permitted, but even if that is not the case right now or it didn’t go as planned, ok so be it, the next time we can all do better. It takes both parties to involve so they can evolve to be as we are called to be.

Instructions for Christian Households

18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

21 Fathers,[a] do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

  
Biblical description of a household according the word of God: man – wife and children. A household needs to be God centric. Your kids need to reflect your heart not your hinderances. Let’s not be so busy preaching that we can’t see what is going on. Let’s not loose sight on that what really matters. (spiritual vision) Let us not be consumed by our one things that we forget that the glory belongs to God.

As the ones responsible for the little ones we need spiritual vision, we need to hear from God. Never confuse the power of the Holy Spirit for the spirit of Beelzebul. It is because Jesus knew what was in their hearts He said to them (meaning the Pharisees) written in Matthew 12:22-30 “25 Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. 26 If Satan drives out Satan, he is divided against himself. How then can his kingdom stand? 27 And if I drive out demons by Beelzebul, by whom do your people drive them out? So then, they will be your judges. 28 But if it is by the Spirit of God that I drive out demons, then the kingdom of God has come upon you.

29 “Or again, how can anyone enter a strong man’s house and carry off his possessions unless he first ties up the strong man? Then he can plunder his house.

Prayer: Hollow be Thy Name. Lord I come before you today presenting you my household, do with us as It pleases You and do with us as see fit to do. We are merely people that wants to be used by You. Today I cancel every word that is spoken against me and my family. I rebuke every satanic power or any spirits that has been send my direction and I return them back to sender in the name of Jesus. I declare that my household is under Your management run by Your HOLY SPIRIT and covered is by the blood of Jesus Christ, whom died at the cross so we could receive the gift of salvation that was given by Your grace.! I ask You to surrounded us by Your guardian angels. Thank You Lord, all this I ask in the name of Jesus, Amen.

The word of God is, need to be, will be the foundation of my house. As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.. We humble ourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift us up in due time. Next topic will be released on Friday “My legacy” (series on kids)

With loving regards,

Shaina Li Domitilia-Margaritha

The Lord remembers you


Hey there, Gods blessing be upon you. Today I just want to share  the thought that even when people try to make you feel bad about a situation/decision, they are actually helping you get stronger and to reach higher. You need the envious people in life, they serve as a push to get you where God wants you to be. They help maximize your potentials, to reach higher and to dig deeper.

You may ask; why are people envious? You may even think “I don’t have nothing they may already have!” But again this is a lie. You have the love of God and is grace that is sufficient for you. This causes people to see you as a thread. The scripture for today is based on Peninnah and Hannah, the two wives of Elkanah (1 Samuel 1) The second scripture is Psalms 126 5-6.

Today I’m not focussing on Samuel but on the rival that is going on between these two woman. You see in text you can read that Peninnah was to one able to give Elkanah sons and daughters. Hannah on the other hand her womb was closed by the Lord. She couldn’t have childeren, she was infertile. But because of this Elkanah knew this and loved Hannah very much he would give Hannah a double portion. (1 Samuel 1:5).

Now this is something that intimidated Peninnah, she knew and saw how Elkanah cared for  Hannah, how he loved her. And the fact that se couldn’t have childeren and that her womb was closed was a strong arrow to use against Hannah, to try to breakin’ her down. So Peninnah starts reviling  Hannah and this goes one for years. She provoked Hannah in order to irritate her. You see know a days people will get in fights. They get jealous of what others have that they don’t but Hannah had a lot amount of courage, class, integrity and dignity. This caused her pain, but the pain caused her to weep in-front of the Lord. People now a days will rival on social media, they even use songs to get back at each other. What Hannah teaches is to not lower your standards, it’s not worthy and doesn’t accomplish anything. Even though it hurt. (1 Samuel 1: 7-8)

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Hannah was fasting and praying even though in the text saids that she wouldn’t eat. After the meal she stood up and went to the Lord’s house. After all these years I understand she had enough, I can understand her tears, she was tired of being provoked. Hannah was in her deep anguish, Hannah prayed, Hannah wept bitterly (heartbroken and downhearted), Hannah was in misery but then Hannah makes a vow. (1 Samuel 9-11) “If you consider me a son I will give him back to you all the days of His life, and no razor will be used on his head”. And Hannah kept on praying she was even misunderstood by Eli he thought she was drunk cause she was praying in her heart and her lips were moving without any voice coming out her mouth. (1 Samuel 1:12-16)

You see many times we vow before the Lord and then when we get what we wanted and then we forget the promise we made God and then you find out that it no longer the way planned. Example you ask God for a child, you get the child but you forget you promised God that  you will give him back and this child causes you pain, he his wandering the world, hanging out with bad crowds..

You ask God for a job and promise to give back what you earn. But then when you have the job you forget the promise and just to find out that your short on money, you can’t even remember where and when you spend the money. Maybe it is not going that well at the job anymore and you decide to leave or you’ve been fired, left without a source of income..

The blessing is complete and you may find joy in it when you stand on your promise. Let your yes, be yes…

See Hannah had heart for God even though she was not pregnant yet.. she still worshiped before the Lord. Then the went back to their home at Ramah and Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah and The Lord Remembered Her. In the course of time she became pregnant and gave birth to a son and calls him Samuel, saying, “Because I asked the Lord for him”. (1 Samuel 17 – 19) The Lord remembered her. The Lord blessed her with a child. The Lord can open your womb for new talents that helps you towards your destiny, He’s able to impregnate you with purpose.

Psalms 126: 5-6

Those who sow with tears
    will reap with songs of joy.
Those who go out weeping,
    carrying seed to sow,
will return with songs of joy,
    carrying sheaves with them

Hannah was a woman of her word, so she kept her word and dedicates Samuel to the Lord (1 Samuel 21- 28) whom God will use later on for great things. (following chapters)

Even when people cause you pain, they are helping you get where you need to be. God his purpose his being put inside of you. Every pain you feel and every tear you dropped before God, He will remember them all. What He has in store for you that love Him nobody can comprehend.

Be blessed.

Shaina Domitilia-Margaritha

 

Rebuilding is a process


 

Hey there today I’m writing you from the thought that sometimes we find ourself connected the wrong people and in that moment you don’t see what the damage is. The text is based on Nehemiah 2 en 1 Peter 5:8

There need to be breakage before healing. Nothing is rebuild overnight. When God leaves you in the fire is because that’s the only way you can see God. When you can shout in the furnace you can shout when you get out. God provides revelation in the situation. Maybe the prayer your praying doesn’t need to be change my situation but give me revelation.

The most vulnerable time in ones life is when you are tired and gave everything away. the devil has time to wait on a opportunity to sneak in and if you are off guard it will bring you down. Small gesture can bring down great people. When you are tired everybody that pretend to listen will do. everybody that says anything nice to you, you will be attracted to. Bad company corrupts good character. Bad company on a long term will affect your health, your finance and your strength. It will cause you to feel as if you are in the lowest moment of your life.)non deserving of God’s love, this is a lie of the devil)  It’s the feeling like hanging on a cord without getting any air, it is the feeling of being scared that the cord will break and cause a separation between you and God.That is why we need to be alert and of sober mind. cause the enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8.

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Sometimes the things that seems to be of no harm will be harmful.  Sometimes we overestimate or strength just to find out that the place we are in we are selling ourself short. We need to back off and seek God.

As a person that has the calling of leadership on your life and you are functioning as leader you can not let everybody in your space. Some people will take from you without putting it back.(strength, energy , ideas…) They suck the energy out of you. they bring you down for Satan’s pleasure. Satan uses people to get what he wants. He will laugh at you in your down moment. When he thinks you don’t have the strength to get up he will find peace. But as soon as you plan to start rebuilding all hell is going to break loose. He will use strategies to bring you down. (he will ridicule you, intimidate you, scare you.. but satan’s plans are not unknown for those who pray and seek God)

  1. A leader must spend a lot of time alone. (Neh. 2:11) Sometimes you have to go apart before you fall apart. You have to unload before you overload. When you are alone you can hear from God. In your solitude you can get a plan and power.
  2. A leader takes the time to gather the necessary information/facts (Neh. 2:13). If you don’t have the facts you will make the wrong decision based only on your feelings.
  3. A leader understand the devil plan and the divine plan is based on details. If you are not a detail-oriented you will mess your life up. A leader pays attention to the details but is not bogged down in the details. You cannot rebuild while micromanaging everything and everybody.
  4. A leader understand that timing and words are important. (Neh. 2:16) Sharing information to soon gives people the time to come up with reasons why your idea won’t work. Be careful who you trust your good stuff too. Have a strategy. The devil sure as hell will have one.
  5. A leader must always focus on the big picture. 2:15
  6. A good leader knows how to motivate people
  7. A good leader knows when to confront the enemy.

Testimony:

While I was going through my now cancelled divorce procedure, I was down, this action of mine caused me a lot of stress I was loosing weight. It caused me my energy. In that time I connected with a person who I confided somethings cause my emotion were all over the place and you could read them of my face. Without noticing this person was trying to pretend to care by saying nice things like I understand, if you need to talk I’m here. Sooner than I expected I was constantly messaging on whats-app. Without knowing I was being carried away. I was feeling tired the whole time, couldn’t give anyone no motivational word, my problems were growing bigger. The demand and the feeling of obligation towards the wrong person began to grow. It was like this person couldn’t be missed in my life.. But the one Person I couldn’t be separated from was the love of God. So I decided that whatever that I can get from God I would take, if it is the same song I will praise Him with, if it is same sentence “Help me Lord” I would say. In my silence I would here Him over and over “Stop talking, Stop exposing yourself, don’t look back” Than one day when I had enough of fighting my own will vs. God’s will, after a service on sunday I messaged this person and I said you are withholding me from God, I choose no longer to give you my time. I’m choosing God over you. I have know broken that line of connection that was causing frequency damage. The truth to be told after this action I missed talking to this person it was as if this person has gotten under my skin. This person became to important in my life just to find out that I was blinded and of guard. Know that I’m aware of this I thank God that he brought me out of the mess I’ve created for myself. I’m free, not looking back. I’m going forward with Jesus in front of me behind me and next to me.

Be blessed,

Shaina Domitilia-Margaritha

Detours in life


Hey there, it’s been a long time now since I wrote you a motivational word. Today while I’m writing you this message you will find out what happened. Firstly I will be taking my text out of Genesis chapter 12 and 13 (you can read it later on). This story has a similarity and reflects back unto my own life. I will write you about this in the final part of this message. “Testimony”

 Here the bible is talking about the calling of Abram whom later on has a change of name and becomes Abraham whom is a friend of God (James 2:23). You see in chapter 12 God is commanding Abram to leave his country, people and from his father’s household. God is commanding him to go to a land that He will show Abram. So, Abram went, as the Lord told him, and took Lot (nephew) and his wife Sarai along with all their possessions they accumulated with him.

At some point in the scripture at verse 7 of chapter 12 he builds God a an altar. This altar was the place where came alone and meet up with God an talk to Him. The bible saids he called upon the name of the Lord.

Now here is where things go wrong. Cause he didn’t stay near the place he used to talk to God, he left and went down to Egypt without consulting God. God had commanded him to leave his land but never said anything about going to Egypt. Now as he was about to enter Egypt I know you are beautiful and if I tell them your my wife they will kill me and let you live, so tell them you are my sister! (liar and set his wife as bate to get a free passage, ugh really?)

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You after this stunt Abram pulled, now Sarai is been taken into the palace and Abram was treated well for het sake and gained more possessions.. But the LORD inflicted serious diseases on Pharaoh and his household. You see when you make a decisions you think it may only affect you but the reality and the truth to the matter is it will affect everybody that is connected to you. Because of this Pharaoh gave orders about Abram to his men, and they sent him on his way, with his wife and everything he had.

Continuing this story about Abram it was time to think back what and when it went wrong and had to go back and fix what needed to be fixed. Chapter 13 verse 1 Abram went up, he became a wealthy men in livestock and in silver and gold. Abram went back/ needed to go back to Bethel the place where he first built an altar for the Lord. There Abram called on the Lord. Skipping a part you can read in your own time to verse 14-18 Here you can read that God kept his promise to a showed Abram the land he had for him.

Testimony: You may ask why I took the time to write you about this or why this word reflects back on me. Well there is no easy way to say this but I filed for divorce a few months ago and just when the final decisions were made by the judge, I had a change of heart by God. (I’m ashamed for even considering this and going through with it until the last moment, after this God changed and restored everything, every mess I created.) You have to be willing to change, to change to way your thinking!

Going through a divorce is something awful and it costs a lot energy. My emotions were all over the place. I couldn’t be an encouragement to myself until I realised that it was not about me but about the plan of God in our life. My kids begun to act out and I couldn’t understand why. Everybody connected to us felt the pain. I thought; “it’s my life, nobody has anything to say about this matter cause it aint open for discussion. “

After a while it felt like I was hanging myself and that my life (spiritually) was depending on a cord I’m clinging to. Every feeling rushed back in. At moment I felled that it was wrong what I was doing. At the beginning I didn’t wanted to hear about it, I didn’t talk nor say anything to anyone and than my heart begun to harden because I didn’t want to hear from God. I encounter my detours in the decisions I made. My altar (the one in my heart) the most secret place where I meet God and talk to was longing for that encounter. My spirit was crying out help me Lord, bit by bit God was molding my heart again and restoring me.

I became sick and this lasted for about 10 months. I was suffering from bowel complaints and the doctors couldn’t find out what was wrong with me. After having undergone a lots of tests they said is was ACNES (Anterieur Cutaneous Nerve Entrapment Syndrome)

The doctors said I need to be injected into my nerves to see if the pain will go away or otherwise I would have surgery on my nerves. This can be very dangerous matter.

Now that my marriage is restored and we are going through emotional healing my physical health is been restored to. Thank you Jesus. You now sin when it is completed it will bring death forth but my God can turn everything around and I tell you I feel like dancing it is because my spirit is rejoicing, my inside is beginning to shake. When I think back that all that He has done for me, how he kept me… there is nothing more I can do than praise Him and give Him thanks.

I hope my story blesses you and that you may find your way back to your first love Jesus Christ.

Be blessed,

S. Domitilia-Margaritha

P.S. I’m telling you this so you may see that lift is not perfect everybody has his own story, makes their own mistakes and I sure do learn from them and share them with you so you may be blessed as I was.

Love – Marriage day 5


God bless you,

Today is the last day of these series “Love – Marriage”. As married couple you united as two singles (complete and whole as individual people) and become one. How to make purpose work. Both of you have a calling. As we know God created Adam, he had the leading role. He had to name all the living and take care of the Eden. Now God find that it is no good that Adam will be alone so He created Eve.

So Adam has his own purpose when God created him. When God created Eve He had created Adam a helper. (Genesis 2:18)  So as woman not only we are under the care (submission) of the man but we have to help. (Colossians 3:18-19) When I say help I mean, when he needs you to do something for him naturally (household, fulfil his desires or active in the ministry) and in the spiritually (prayer, encourage…) you have to do so.

My husband is called to be a Pastor but is currently active in ministering with the Praise and worship team. He is a musician (pianist). So I have to cover him constantly with prayer, because the attacks will come. When he has to perform/minister somewhere I have to be alert that he is being exposed and that all kind of people can approach him for all kind of personal reasons and not all those reasons are Godly intended. So he needs prayer constantly. As musician you need a righthand or someone that does take care of the sound. He needs me so he is learning me to do the sound. I’m doing sound because it is my thing but he needs me at it, so I’m willing to learn that.

Before every writing and after every writing for these series of “Love – Marriage” I consulted him, because I’m aware that I’m exposing us. So I don’t do anything without consulting he has to know and approve of the situation.

Romans 12:1-2 tells us that we have to be transformed in our thinking. As pagans we think I don’t need permission for doing anything. I will do as it pleases my own desires. Example look at Eve. 1 Timothy 2:14 it says “14 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner”

As wife you have to respect your husband. So if he is the man of the house and the wife is submitted than respect has to follow otherwise you cannot speak of submission and honouring him in the position God put him. (Ephesians 5:31-33)

Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. (Romans 12:10)
As wife honor your husband so he feels that he is respected.

I know these writing are mostly dedicated to the woman, but as woman we are stubborn. Sometimes we think why should I, but this is the will of God. I didn’t say loose your voice, communication is a priority.

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Remember: “12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;[b] she must be quiet.” 1 Timothy 2:12

Be blessed. It’s my prayer that God will bring the two of you closer to each other. That their will be communication and understanding. That your thinking will be transformed and be the helper God created you to be.

With loving regards,

S.Domitilia

PS: It was an honor for me to do this. God trusted me with something big and I’m glad to have answer to His call.

If you have any petition (request) for some other topic of series comment and let me know I’ll be working on it. 😉

Love – Marriage day 4


God bless you,

In todays series I just want to make sure your married or maybe engaged to get married soon but very soon. I don’t want anybody to get tempted by these writings and go haunt themselves a husband or wife down for the wrong reasons.

Ok, here we go. I told you yesterday about some problems that marriage can face. I didn’t told all of although we experienced financial problems, miscommunication and maybe even thought at some point of quitting what God has brought together. I thank God today that His love and grace was with us. The beautiful thing for us was that when the one was down, the other one had a little bit of strength and patience to stretch in faith and prayer to uplift one and other. A life of prayer is necessary when you are married.

Today I want to share with you how to communicate love to your spouse and how to keep the flame burning despite the fact that the butterflies effect doesn’t always work after you been a while with each other.

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Many times when you hear that something went wrong and the woman/man committed adultery is because something was missing they were getting attention elsewhere that they didn’t get at home. Make sure home is well taken care in every aspect. Sometimes you have to sit down talk things trough so you know the desires of your partner, pray about it and be one flesh in it. Make sure you have a compromise that fills both of you it’s desires.
Love own it’s own language and knows 5 compounds;

Passion: Sometimes sexual relationship is the last thing a woman thinks about. Why? Because she has a whole household to run, work, tension emotionally, tired and there are many reasons more to write. But actually sex is God design for a married couple, so it has to be on the priority list. It is important to fulfil the desires of the man. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
As you know you can pray for everything;  Woman pray that God strengthens you, revitalise you, gives you energy and a good attitude so that both of you can enjoy the moment! Men: (Proverbs 5:18-19)
18 May your fountain be blessed,
    and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
    may her breasts satisfy you always,
    may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”

Companionship: God thought is not good for the man to be alone and created the woman, a helper.. Then when God thought the should become one in flesh he sad in verse 24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:22-25)

Affection: (Songs of songs 2:6)
His left arm is under my head,
    and his right arm embraces me.” 

A touch feels good sometimes, a hug, a kiss, holdings hands while walking downtown.. Things that demonstrate attention and you are still in love. It doesn’t necessarily means that it has to lead to sex. Spice things up enjoy each other and be contempt to have each other.

Compassion: (Ephesians 4:29-32) I’ll highlight verse 32 32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” It is a request to be compassionate. Just follow the example Christ gave to us His bride!

The love of giving gifts: (Genesis chapter 27 till 32) I’m going to point a historical part out of the scripture even though this is an example of brotherly love its is important to give gifts; It’s the story of Esau and Jacob. Esau was mad at Jacob because he thought and was a fact that

  • He took his birthright, and now he’s taken his blessing
  • Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him.
  • Esau was planning to avenge himself by killing Jacob
  • So Jacob fleet to his uncle Laban in Haran. After Jacob stayed their for 7 years in order to get Rachel as wife, he got Leah instead because she was the oldest and the first that was supposed to get married. But Jacob loved Rachel so much that he had sacrificed another 7 years of work in order to get Rachel.
  • Now the time has come that the Lord said to Jacob, “Go back to the land of your fathers and to your relatives, and I will be with you.

What now happend was is that Jacob was still afraid of his brother so he sent messengers before him with all kinds of gifts to make things right. (Genesis 32:6–21, 33:4–11)

Not only in times of problems you bring gifts but a flower after work or something you know that will please your partner.

I’ll fess up I love the branch of Guess so every time I get something of Guess I’m pleased. But in the same way I love to surprise my husband with little gifts, it makes him happy and is feeling appreciated and respected.

I know this was long to read, but I hope it helped. Be blessed.

Remember do as it work for the both of you.

With loving regards,

S.Domitilia

 

Love – Marriage day 3


God bless you,

Today I want to talk about some life experience. Yesterday I told how my love story began. Today I will write and blog about the common problems every relationship can face. Every stage/level knows his own problems. Even that love is pure and perfect, we as humans are not perfect.

Many times we harden our heart to the discipline of God. When He rebukes us; we get angry and yet we find ourself in tears crying and asking why it didn’t work out.

My husband comes from a Pastoral family. This meant at the time that I could not sleepover at his house. This doesn’t mean there was no shacking but I know now why it was not possible to stay over. In the beginning when I went for visits we always sat in the living room afterwards we start going into the bedroom. (well their is where the danger begins) The bible tells us that we have to flee the evil desires of our youth and to pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace. (2 Timothy 2:22) If we only listen to the discipline of God we wouldn’t be endangered and exposed to sin.

Well as you know we were engage but there was some shacking up. So what now. We knew each other for a very long time now. We were shacking what was new and a next level to achieve. It seems like we did it all and that there would be nothing new to the relationship. These wore my feelings and thoughts. But again the bible says;
(1 Corinthians 7:2) “2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.” Well this meant clearly we had to get married.

There was a time that jealousy was living in our hearts; I lost many cellphones 😮
Many painful words were spoken to each other and it began to thorn things apart. In 1 Corinthians 13 bible says that loved doesn’t know jealousy, love doesn’t know envy but love is kindness, peace, joy…..

We had to struggle with some infidelity; ooh boy. The man is not always guilty. Bible talks about the foolish woman who tears the house down with her own hands. I have been here; I had to learn how to become the wise woman who constructs a house and keeps it together. (Proverbs 14:1) If we only communicate and say what is on our minds life would be better. Sometimes we think or feel some way and act directly on those feelings. Feelings are temporarily. Today I can feel fit and tomorrow tired. If we only take time to talk and search together for solutions marriage will be forever. When you talk you grow together as one. When you don’t talk you grow apart. When you pray together your united as one in faith. Faith is like a marriage glue. You need those compounds in order to work to a successful and effective marriage.

Trust can be re-established when you choose together to make it work. This infidelity incident took place after we have been for 6 or 7 years together. We’ve been now 12 years together this mean that we have work it out in 5 years. We had to learn to trust. Never ever think that you saw everything, there will always something new to learn from your partner. This journey of love knows his joy and sad moments, some moments to grow and some moments of setbacks. There will be always ups and downs, but don’t stay in the downs.

Love day 3We wore so young on this picture.

Tomorrow I will write about how to keep the love burning. If Jesus is the groom and we as church the bride, we as church disappointed Him in many occasions but yet He will never divorce us (like He never will leave us; His love and grace, forgives us and gives us a new chance to make thing right, He has a solution for everything) Prayer and obedience is the key that help to empower the married life.

Be blessed,

With loving regards,

S.Domitilia

Love – Marriage day 2


God bless you,

Since I made the promise I have to live up to it. Today I will tell you how we grew together as friends – knowing each other – knowing families and growing in love towards God and for each other. Having a relationship is a multitask issue. It’s a covenant between God- man- woman.

At first I didn’t know he was watching, once I knew I had that feeling of butterflies in my stomach. What I didn’t know was that those butterflies will die after a period and that I had to give them CPR over and over again to keep them alive. Yet this is not possible. I had to make a decision to love him as I love myself and sacrifice my own will to his and be the help God created for the man. (Gen. 2:21-25)

I recall when we started to talk to each other my husband had a female friend that he used to talk to for hours on the phone. He was the Youth Pastor and yet I found myself preaching to him. I was young; I asked “you cannot talk to two girls at the same time right?”.(Guess this was the epic moment that drove his attention completely to me, we were just friends and there I was courages asking how is it that he is talking to multiple woman at the same time oops) I just wanted to know where we stand and if he was interested. I could only build and be stable if he was stable too. I was thirteen/fourteen at the time we began to talk to each other. I had problems at home because he was much older as I. At the church I was attending my Youth Pastor ask me friendly why him, where did I met him from on so one. I was stoned with lot of questions, but somewhere I knew he will be the one. Many times I found myself praying asking God if he was the one and to give me a sign.

We had enough time to talk, to know each other and to grow together in God. We had the time to work as individuals on the broken and deformed parts of love. We had to deal with Jealousy – Fornication – Infidelity and  lack of communication/understanding. (what love should look like 1 Corinthians 13)

At first I had to learn that whence I made the decision to fall in love with him that I cannot quit because I’ll be a quitter without trying. If you don’t go through trials there cannot be triumphs. There is no testimony and you cannot learn anything if you don’t try it out first. Being together is to make a decision to love, care, help and stretch in prayer and faith. You have to sacrifice allot in order to make it work, but it is worth it. Just make sure that you don’t loose yourself in the process. Be yourself and make sure your partner knows what is going through your mind, honesty is a big deal. Don’t only complain about the situation but ask yourself what are you doing to help the situation. Never try to change your partner only God can do so. Change begins with yourself and  in prayer. Therefore it is important that your partner knows how you think and feel so he knows how to react on it. Remember this; Change doesn’t happen in one day, it takes love and patience to cultivate and to awaken what you are praying for.

All this I had to learn and after 5 years we got engaged. The rest of this story and the profound of it will follow tomorrow.

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Be blessed. I just hope you are finding everything you need. My prayer is that God will be the centre of your relationship and marriage. Starting as friends is essential you can fall back on it and have flashbacks about it. Don’t start on desires because this can disappointing if you don’t know the person, the feelings, the thoughts and desires he/she has.

With loving regards,

S.Domitilia