#lifelesson #forgiveness

Hey there God bless you,

In these past few weeks I learned a lot and it is worth sharing. Life is a roller coaster. It has it’s ups and down, it’s highlights and low points. Either way no matter in which you encounter yourself in their is always something to learn. Sometimes it is a life lesson that needs to be thought. Sometimes it is not a lecture we need but just a reminder of who we are now and who we need to be. There is always something to learn, we are not outlearned, we don’t know everything and we need the Holy Spirit for vision,guidance, understanding and knowledge on how to handle things in certain situations and circumstances of life.

Besides telling people that I love them and care about them I often say sorry and thank you. By doing so I also really mean it from the depths of my heart. These are words imprinted in me. People who really know me can testify about it.  If I’m wrong of if I’m not sure about being wrong I will ask sorry, ask for forgiveness. This is what the bible commands us to do. If you know that your brother has something against you, go and make it right. After all we need to be quick to listen and slow to talk. I learned this past week that “silence can’t be quoted” (FL. Serita Ann Jakes)

When there is misunderstanding and a person doesn’t care to ask what you meant by what was said, there is no need to excuse yourself and to explain. This mean that they believe in their own interpretations of the matter. Even  if you didn’t meant it all they feel and care about is the moment of the happening. It is important to speak about your feelings but what matter the most is forgiveness. See Joseph brothers sold him into slavery, he went through a lot of trouble because of this action but it didn’t change Him. God set him apart to nurture Him and to teach Him. When the time presented itself Joseph reaction though in Genesis 45:1-5 he gathered them around and put his arms around them, comforted them by telling don’t be distressed and angry with yourselves. Joseph recognised it was the will of God.


We need to have the spirit of reconciliation, we need to sow peace make sure that peace rains. We all need to take responsibility for our actions. Are we building the temple of Saul (reigned for status and power, a man who was arrogant and jealousy was within him) or are we building the temple of David? (house of God and a man according to God’s heart).

We are not worth being forgiven if we don’t forgive others. In Matthew we pray, forgive us our debts as we forgive debtors..

If we say “I love you” be real about it. Stop the pretending. There is no need for a masquerade fest cause when we come into the presence of the Most High God nothing can stay hidden we we will be exposed to our lacks, to our vulnerabilities, to our insecurities.

The proces and the price we have to pay is high but remember the highest price Jesus did already paid it, it was by shedding of His blood at the cross.

My prayer for today:

Heavenly hallow be thy name, Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. Father even though they hurt us and it wronged us in the spirit help us to be humble and follow your path. By doing so you will mend our hearts, you will give us the strength and the joy to keep going. And Father if we are the ones that wronged others and hurt them, help us to recognise this and be real about it and vulnerable enough to ask forgiveness for our actions. In the name of Jesus we ask this, Amen.

Be blessed.

ShainaLiMargaritha ~ S.L. Domitilia


A part of deliverance.

God bless you,

Today I wanna tell you this. Sometimes in order for you to receive deliverance you must forgive someone that hurt you. Sometimes it will take away your breath only by thinking you have to forgive someone that hurt you so badly. Forgiveness is necessary for you to be free. It doesn’t say anything about the person it says more about you. It says: “I’m ready to move on”, “I refuse to stay stuck in the past”, “I refuse to live in bondage because something that has been done to me”.. Sometimes it may sound selfish but you have to choose for yourself and the kind of relationship you want to have with God.

The bible says in Matthew 6:15 That if we don’t forgive others their sins, our heavenly Father will not forgive us our sins. So in order to be free and delivered from sin you must forgive someone that hurt you but you have to forgive yourself also. You can’t ask from God to forgive you if your not willing to forgive yourself!

You may ask how many times you should forgive. It is a question that has been asked before. Peter asked Jesus how many times he should forgive his brothers and sister in Matthew 18:21 and Jesus replied ” up to seventy-seven times”. Reconcile with your brother and sister now that you have the time. If you have to forgive your mom because she gave the feeling of never being enough forgive her. If you have to forgive a uncle of molesting forgive him. It may sound difficult and heart but this is for your own good this is your healing, your deliverance.

matthew 6;15I can remember forgiving someone. I couldn’t even think straight of what I will do if I saw this person the next time I see her, because of what she has done. She was a member of the church, taking part of the dance group I was leading and we even worked at the radio station together. So she knew that the man she was flirting and sending text messages to was spoken for. I already had my suspicion till it came out to the light what was going on.. I was angry, didn’t feel any love, compassion nor forgiveness flowing through me. (I hated her) In one word I couldn’t function. One week later on the Sunday the spirit of the Lord spoke to me that I had to go the her and forgive her. I can remember myself in tears hugging her for what she has done. But in reality it was what I have done.. I judge her even contempt her, that day I was deliver from all that what was wrong and corrupted my love, my trust, my praise. I was free, I was functioning again.

Be blessed.

With loving regards,


Love – Marriage day 4

God bless you,

In todays series I just want to make sure your married or maybe engaged to get married soon but very soon. I don’t want anybody to get tempted by these writings and go haunt themselves a husband or wife down for the wrong reasons.

Ok, here we go. I told you yesterday about some problems that marriage can face. I didn’t told all of although we experienced financial problems, miscommunication and maybe even thought at some point of quitting what God has brought together. I thank God today that His love and grace was with us. The beautiful thing for us was that when the one was down, the other one had a little bit of strength and patience to stretch in faith and prayer to uplift one and other. A life of prayer is necessary when you are married.

Today I want to share with you how to communicate love to your spouse and how to keep the flame burning despite the fact that the butterflies effect doesn’t always work after you been a while with each other.

Love day 4


Many times when you hear that something went wrong and the woman/man committed adultery is because something was missing they were getting attention elsewhere that they didn’t get at home. Make sure home is well taken care in every aspect. Sometimes you have to sit down talk things trough so you know the desires of your partner, pray about it and be one flesh in it. Make sure you have a compromise that fills both of you it’s desires.
Love own it’s own language and knows 5 compounds;

Passion: Sometimes sexual relationship is the last thing a woman thinks about. Why? Because she has a whole household to run, work, tension emotionally, tired and there are many reasons more to write. But actually sex is God design for a married couple, so it has to be on the priority list. It is important to fulfil the desires of the man. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
As you know you can pray for everything;  Woman pray that God strengthens you, revitalise you, gives you energy and a good attitude so that both of you can enjoy the moment! Men: (Proverbs 5:18-19)
18 May your fountain be blessed,
    and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
    may her breasts satisfy you always,
    may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”

Companionship: God thought is not good for the man to be alone and created the woman, a helper.. Then when God thought the should become one in flesh he sad in verse 24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:22-25)

Affection: (Songs of songs 2:6)
His left arm is under my head,
    and his right arm embraces me.” 

A touch feels good sometimes, a hug, a kiss, holdings hands while walking downtown.. Things that demonstrate attention and you are still in love. It doesn’t necessarily means that it has to lead to sex. Spice things up enjoy each other and be contempt to have each other.

Compassion: (Ephesians 4:29-32) I’ll highlight verse 32 32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” It is a request to be compassionate. Just follow the example Christ gave to us His bride!

The love of giving gifts: (Genesis chapter 27 till 32) I’m going to point a historical part out of the scripture even though this is an example of brotherly love its is important to give gifts; It’s the story of Esau and Jacob. Esau was mad at Jacob because he thought and was a fact that

  • He took his birthright, and now he’s taken his blessing
  • Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him.
  • Esau was planning to avenge himself by killing Jacob
  • So Jacob fleet to his uncle Laban in Haran. After Jacob stayed their for 7 years in order to get Rachel as wife, he got Leah instead because she was the oldest and the first that was supposed to get married. But Jacob loved Rachel so much that he had sacrificed another 7 years of work in order to get Rachel.
  • Now the time has come that the Lord said to Jacob, “Go back to the land of your fathers and to your relatives, and I will be with you.

What now happend was is that Jacob was still afraid of his brother so he sent messengers before him with all kinds of gifts to make things right. (Genesis 32:6–21, 33:4–11)

Not only in times of problems you bring gifts but a flower after work or something you know that will please your partner.

I’ll fess up I love the branch of Guess so every time I get something of Guess I’m pleased. But in the same way I love to surprise my husband with little gifts, it makes him happy and is feeling appreciated and respected.

I know this was long to read, but I hope it helped. Be blessed.

Remember do as it work for the both of you.

With loving regards,



Who am I..

God bless you,

Today I will talk a little bit of my childhood, my teenage years and my young adult years.

My childhood; I was born out of wedlock and “was” a seed of adultery. I am a only child. Now you can can ask why I say I was; well you know when I accepted Jesus He turned my past into a testimony. So now I am a daughter of the most high King and He is perfect and know what He does. God doesn’t make mistakes. As I grew up my mother did everything she could so that I can have everything I wanted. But as child (grownups also) you are delicate and as people reject you and speak lies about you it hurts even more.

So there I was fighting my way into the present trying to get acceptance. I grew up hearing that I am a “bastard” (not from my mom she always loved me tried to protect me from the hurting world but it still got to me), I had to hear from brothers and sisters in the church that my dresses where oldish and so one. But still through all of my hurt God used one person a old friend as I call him to get to me. He invited me to church. To the youth service. I met God, and God began to speak to me. I was so hunger for Him that I wanted more after a while of growing in church a man came up to me. He asked me if I wanted to host e radio program for kids I replied and saith yes. There I was a kid myself speaking to other kids. God knew He had to set me apart. God grace was with me in my pain so I can have a testimony a story to share.

My teenage years: I was now in high school I was pass over the fact that people will always have an opinion towards me, so I thought. Without knowing that the seeds they planted were growing roots inside of me. Sometimes I didn’t even want to listen to what my mom wants. I wanted my own ways. I was in church but with a rebellious attitude. We got into a fight so bad one time that I thought she is rejecting me to. I began to think she doesn’t want me, she is comparing me with my nieces and so one. That is the day I decided I wanted out of this life it was hard, so I thought. I took the knife… But once again Gods grace was already there. I got afraid I was still yelling tho but they manage to take away the knife. For a cooling down and distraction I got to stay with other family.

Adult years: In my teenage years I met my husband at the radiostation. I was thirteen at the time. He saw me maybe twice before but I didn’t noticed. He was attending another church than I was so I didn’t saw him often. Only on fridays I used to go for teenage programs now. When I noticed the interest and my interest was growing we began talking. I liked him a whole lot was smitten by Him. We talked before the dating and so one. After a while we began dating years went pass by. We know each other for 11 years so in order for me to tell you everything I will need to write a book. but for now I’ll just skip a part. We moved from our homeland to Holland. We lived together for three years got a our firstborn out of wedlock. and after these three years got married.

God was every step of the way I saw my own past and I know my present; one thing we had for sure that we didn’t want to reproduce our life’s.

It went wrong the spirit of fortification was present we had to deal with that. We grew up with out hearing to often that we are loved. We wore kids that only had our mothers. What do you do when you miss a part of you. Know that God’s grace is sufficient for you. Even when your mom or dad walks out on you God is there to tell you came in my child. I love you. Hear is your place take position. God has a plan for you.

Yesterday I told about you, you are beautiful unique and made in God’s image. Today I tell you who I am and tomorrow I will tell you what I do to make it better than the past.



Family matters, only God can restore and mend situations, the broken hearted and those who lack of love. If can do it for me He can do it for you.

Be blessed.

With loving regards.


Please, come back…

God bless you today,

I’ll be writing you today to reconnect, reconstruct and to restore your relationship with GOD. God’s love, grace and mercy is sufficient for you and me. You just have to believe that He can forgive more than you can realise. Maybe someone won’t forgive you that easily for lying to them, or for stealing something of them or even maybe kill a loved one of theirs. I don’t no who am talking to today, but if you are reading this and you think it’s for me or you know some one, share this word with them. If you wore in adultery, if you believed black magic can do some for you.. I don’t know what it is, that is the worst you think you have might done, what I do know is that God is waiting for you to just come back Home. The word of God is reaching to you, don’t turn your back. God is waiting for you. He has a plan with you, He can sort all things out for you, so don’t think I have sinned and He will not forgive me for turning my back on Him.

God loves you even when you wore rebellious and wouldn’t listen what your leaders or pastors at church told you about how you should handle. Even if you left your church for what reason it might be. That is of no importance to God, He only wants you to return home where He is and still can be find.

God is talking to you in Isaiah 55: 6-7 KJV

6 Seek ye the Lord while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: 7 Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.

Bible is telling you to seek the Lord while He may be find. So you have the time now, reach back to Him. Don’t wait till tomorrow, just talk things through with God, He is an understanding God that wants to put you in the light and pull you of your darkness.

1 Timothy 1:15-16 (an example and testimony of Paul)

15 Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst. 16 But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life.

King David named “a man after God own heart” even though he committed adultery and murder. Judas the on who trade Jesus for 30 piece of silver, received forgiveness. Are you getting the picture.. There is nothing God can forgive you from He is willing to do so, you just have to come back and say so and believe that is done. In fact it is done Jesus died at the cross for our sins so we might have eternal live in Him.

Declare today that you are free from sins, return back Home where your Heavenly Father is waiting for you and start over. Don’t let the devil whisper you that you won’t receive forgiveness, don’t let shame and guilt keep you from coming back home. All those things are taking care of in the Mighty name of Jesus Christ.

Please, just come back home. God is waiting for you and is ready to restore, to mend and to use you for His Kingdom.

I’m believing God today on this word Isaiah 55:11

so is my word that goes out from my mouth:
It will not return to me empty,
but will accomplish what I desire
and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.

Be blessed,

With loving regards,