Friend: “I’m fine”


Hey there this is a new week with new opportunities. May God bless you and that you’ll find favour in the sight of God and men. Today I’m going to talk about friends (friendship), it could be the next upcoming  series but for now just this one topic. Today’s topic is ” I’m fine “.

Sometimes we find ourself in a pit, in  a condition where we need help. We need people to carry us to Jesus, so that He can forgive us (again) and heal us from our  lameness. There is a remarkable story being told in the bible about a man that was paralyzed.

Mark 2:1-3 A few days later, when Jesus again entered Capernaum, the people heard that he had come home. They gathered in such large numbers that there was no room left, not even outside the door, and he preached the word to them. Some men came, bringing to him a paralyzed man, carried by four of them” . 

Some men came (four of them), assuming they were his friends, they came carrying the paralyzed man. First off all they knew the man, the knew his condition and together they knew he needs Jesus. So even the people had gathered in large numbers and the fact that there was no room left, not even outside the door, it didn’t stop them.

I must say I’m very happy with my surroundings. My husband covers me as I cover him. I have friends “Sisters” that know me for who I am and they are willing to stand by me whatever it takes. We cover each other in prayer, when we need to say something that may have hurt or we just didn’t like the way something happened, it doesn’t make us feel offended by it or less. We forgive, we seek options, we talk things through and we move one. We grow closer. We don’t just give up on the friendship because we didn’t like certain things. Everyday we have we get know each other better and know how every character is. I’m happy with leaders that will cover me in prayer and hear me out as I cover them in prayer and hear them out. (I guess I needed to get this part out as well) But coming back to the main topic the bible continues saying in

Mark 2:4-5 Since they could not get him to Jesus because of the crowd, they made an opening in the roof above Jesus by digging through it and then lowered the mat the man was lying on. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralyzed man, “Son, your sins are forgiven.”

So these four men made an opening in the roof and then lowered the mat the man was laying on. Again the recognised the condition there friend was in, they knew they couldn’t do nothing but to bring him to Jesus. The text says when Jesus saw their faith.. meaning that He didn’t see the paralyzed man his faith but all of them who were their with him. So this man is making an entrance through to roof thanks to his friends and now the continuation..

Mark 2:6-12 Now some teachers of the law were sitting there, thinking to themselves, “Why does this fellow talk like that? He’s blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?”

Immediately Jesus knew in his spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts, and he said to them, “Why are you thinking these things? Which is easier: to say to this paralyzed man, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Get up, take your mat and walk’? 10 But I want you to know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins.” So he said to the man, 11 “I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home.” 12 He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. This amazed everyone and they praised God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this!”

There will always be critic, you see Jesus was explaining Himself to the teachers, clarifying their thoughts! And the text continuing by saying that Jesus told the man to get up, to take his mat and to go home. And the man did all what Jesus commanded him an walked out in full view of them all. Everyone amazed and now praising God.

I love this story because:

  • Entrance: the man was lowered through to roof, because he was paralyzed. He couldn’t do it himself and needed friends who can bring him somewhere.
  • Exit: He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. (You see first he needed help but now he is fine. He can carry the mat himself

    “The mat used to carry me in, but now I am getting up and will carry it out.”

  • Entrance: He needed his friends to help him get to Jesus
  • Exit: Now he is fine, he doesn’t need help.

    “I need to be able to tell you I’m fine, without you getting offended by it”

This story could’ve be completely different if the friends were in the same condition as the paralyzed man. Who would’ve carry whom. None of them would have been able to help one and other.

When look at the process of the hospital;

  • It starts by you getting checked in  (by loved ones, people that care about your health),
  • The second thing you know you are being placed into a room with other sick patience and on that floor we are all sick.

Therefore you have nurses and doctors that are trying their very hard best to help you out of the condition you are in and up to your feed so you can get checked out and go home. It will cost the hospital a lot if you stay in for a long time, it may also cost another their life cause there is no place to check them in. So if we are sick and gather with sick people we are just a group of sick people. After a while it becomes normal that everyone associated to that group is someone with any kind of sickness

  • So that is why the final step is to get you in a good condition where you go home and be checked out of the hospital.

It is proven that if people are in environment where they feel at home they tend to get well faster or live longer than to stay into the hospital.

But to come back to the point where you to have friends that are able to set aside differences and needs to see you of good. And when you are good you now can help others get well as well.

It is not for nothing that Psalms 1:1 says Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers,..”

Mark 2;1-11

It is very important to know who you are connected to, what they can bring to the table! You need to be yourself while with them without it comprising the fact that when you need to speak up you can’t really say what is on your because it may affect the relationship. If we are friends and I can’t tell you about something that doesn’t fit, why we are friends than? It’s a question that needs to be considerate in every relationship.

Often you see in films and movies if an operation has been compromised that they need the abort the mission. In this case the Chief Commander is God and if you need to say something and you can’t because of the consequences you need to rethink the position you are in and abort the friendship. You are being held back and can’t grow and move forward like this. Sometimes it is necessary to let some people go, they fulfilled their purpose in your life.

If I can say something to you, without it making you quit me , you aren’t for me. And if I can’t correct you without you leaving me, you aren’t for me.

“Don’t hold on unto someone that wasn’t supposed to stay in your life forever.”

Are just going to keep on weeping on what was and isn’t or will you walk with what is?

“Don’t mourn longer than you need to. Move on..”

God has a plan and purpose for you (Jeremiah 29:11 “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”🙂 and it may notplay out the way you expected it. But remember Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.”

Thank God for friendship!

God bless you and keep you.

Shaina Li Domitilia- Margaritha

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Pushing through the Pain


 

pushing through the pain

I like to talk about pain, before that I will like to point out two kinds of pain…let me explain.

I use to be a very athletic person and could run 10 Km easy, but for the past 9 years, I stop exercising and gain about 25 Kg. This year I started experiencing pain in my body, a wrong kind of pain…pain that was caused by unbalanced diet and lack of exercise.

Three months ago I decided to starts walking, just walking. The first time I walked about 6 km, during this first walk I was in such a pain I took many breaks.
The following days the pain was there, but you see, it was the other kind of pain, growing pain, the same pain you experience when you exercise, lift weights etc…pain you experience when you wanna go to a next level.

I kept doing my walks and the pain became less, but the pain is still there, but much less. Then I decided to start running …I wanted to go to the next level!!! First time I didn’t make it to 300 meters and the pain was worst, I took breaks after breaks.
My next run I told myself to push through the pain and I ran 1 Km….yes!!!, but the pain is still there…. but it’s the right kind of pain, growing pain!! “But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.” – Matthew 24:13

In our daily walk with the Lord, we will experience pain, but we have to push through, it’s growing pain. Sometimes we confused the two kinds of pains….maybe we are having an unbalanced “spiritual” diet or maybe we are not doing our spiritual exercises… meaning prayer and reading the word of God, then we will experience the wrong kind of pain, but if we are eating from His word and move the way He tells us to move, there will still be pain, but the right kind of pain, pain that takes you to the next level. We experience pain during exercises and the pain may last for days. In our spiritual life, we may still experience pain after doing everything the way it’s supposed to be done, but you need to remember this, it is the process of growing and becoming stronger in our walk with the Lord Jesus.

I remember both times we gave birth to our two daughters…I say “we” because I like to think I felt 100% the same pain as my wife and pushed together with her till the end….we will always push together through pain and we had a lot of those.

Let me finish saying, no matter how painful it can be you have to push through the pain, and you will go to the next level in the name of Jesus Christ.“I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:14

I’m approaching 10Km runs … the pain is still there …but I’m on another level, and God gave me this writing during today’s run, thank you Jesus.

Amen.

Greetings,

R. Domitilia

Detours in life


Hey there, it’s been a long time now since I wrote you a motivational word. Today while I’m writing you this message you will find out what happened. Firstly I will be taking my text out of Genesis chapter 12 and 13 (you can read it later on). This story has a similarity and reflects back unto my own life. I will write you about this in the final part of this message. “Testimony”

 Here the bible is talking about the calling of Abram whom later on has a change of name and becomes Abraham whom is a friend of God (James 2:23). You see in chapter 12 God is commanding Abram to leave his country, people and from his father’s household. God is commanding him to go to a land that He will show Abram. So, Abram went, as the Lord told him, and took Lot (nephew) and his wife Sarai along with all their possessions they accumulated with him.

At some point in the scripture at verse 7 of chapter 12 he builds God a an altar. This altar was the place where came alone and meet up with God an talk to Him. The bible saids he called upon the name of the Lord.

Now here is where things go wrong. Cause he didn’t stay near the place he used to talk to God, he left and went down to Egypt without consulting God. God had commanded him to leave his land but never said anything about going to Egypt. Now as he was about to enter Egypt I know you are beautiful and if I tell them your my wife they will kill me and let you live, so tell them you are my sister! (liar and set his wife as bate to get a free passage, ugh really?)

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You after this stunt Abram pulled, now Sarai is been taken into the palace and Abram was treated well for het sake and gained more possessions.. But the LORD inflicted serious diseases on Pharaoh and his household. You see when you make a decisions you think it may only affect you but the reality and the truth to the matter is it will affect everybody that is connected to you. Because of this Pharaoh gave orders about Abram to his men, and they sent him on his way, with his wife and everything he had.

Continuing this story about Abram it was time to think back what and when it went wrong and had to go back and fix what needed to be fixed. Chapter 13 verse 1 Abram went up, he became a wealthy men in livestock and in silver and gold. Abram went back/ needed to go back to Bethel the place where he first built an altar for the Lord. There Abram called on the Lord. Skipping a part you can read in your own time to verse 14-18 Here you can read that God kept his promise to a showed Abram the land he had for him.

Testimony: You may ask why I took the time to write you about this or why this word reflects back on me. Well there is no easy way to say this but I filed for divorce a few months ago and just when the final decisions were made by the judge, I had a change of heart by God. (I’m ashamed for even considering this and going through with it until the last moment, after this God changed and restored everything, every mess I created.) You have to be willing to change, to change to way your thinking!

Going through a divorce is something awful and it costs a lot energy. My emotions were all over the place. I couldn’t be an encouragement to myself until I realised that it was not about me but about the plan of God in our life. My kids begun to act out and I couldn’t understand why. Everybody connected to us felt the pain. I thought; “it’s my life, nobody has anything to say about this matter cause it aint open for discussion. “

After a while it felt like I was hanging myself and that my life (spiritually) was depending on a cord I’m clinging to. Every feeling rushed back in. At moment I felled that it was wrong what I was doing. At the beginning I didn’t wanted to hear about it, I didn’t talk nor say anything to anyone and than my heart begun to harden because I didn’t want to hear from God. I encounter my detours in the decisions I made. My altar (the one in my heart) the most secret place where I meet God and talk to was longing for that encounter. My spirit was crying out help me Lord, bit by bit God was molding my heart again and restoring me.

I became sick and this lasted for about 10 months. I was suffering from bowel complaints and the doctors couldn’t find out what was wrong with me. After having undergone a lots of tests they said is was ACNES (Anterieur Cutaneous Nerve Entrapment Syndrome)

The doctors said I need to be injected into my nerves to see if the pain will go away or otherwise I would have surgery on my nerves. This can be very dangerous matter.

Now that my marriage is restored and we are going through emotional healing my physical health is been restored to. Thank you Jesus. You now sin when it is completed it will bring death forth but my God can turn everything around and I tell you I feel like dancing it is because my spirit is rejoicing, my inside is beginning to shake. When I think back that all that He has done for me, how he kept me… there is nothing more I can do than praise Him and give Him thanks.

I hope my story blesses you and that you may find your way back to your first love Jesus Christ.

Be blessed,

S. Domitilia-Margaritha

P.S. I’m telling you this so you may see that lift is not perfect everybody has his own story, makes their own mistakes and I sure do learn from them and share them with you so you may be blessed as I was.