“My legacy” (Series on kids)

Blessings to you and yours. This past week was one with many trials and I’ve experienced a lot of oppression but thank God we made it to the final writing of these series on kids. The topic I’m writing from today is “My legacy”. There are few definition you can find on the term legacy but when it comes to this context these two definitions do fit.

  1. anything handed down from the past, as from an ancestor or predecessor:
  2. an applicant to or student at a school that was attended by his or her parent.

Ad. 1 You may ask what is it that I past on to my children and the next generation there after. Well it’s plain an simple. The teachings of the bible may be engraved into their hearts as The Word of God traveled through generations out. As been pointed out before it is my duty to start them off right in the way they should go. It’s my responsibility to teach them the Word of God, How to pray, What worship really means and why it is so important to stay in the Lord that He may stay in us.

Ad. 2 You may ask which school I attended to well I’ve been to school with Jesus (Books of Matthew – Mark – Luke and John), After this I’ve attended college at the Word of God. (Thru the Bible), and now I’m attending at the University of the Holy Spirit as John and Peter. (As in the book of Acts.) This is what I’m going to teach them, so when they grow old they will know where they came from and that it is their duty to pass on these teachings to the next generations.

You see the bible says in Proverbs 17:6 Old people are distinguished by grandchildren;
children take pride in their parents.” (MSG version)

You see grandchildren are a crown to the age, they bring joy to them, they are being spoiled by their grandparents (if it where you doing something that was not supposed to at that age it may have turn out completely different, now you hear leave them be)

Children take pride in their parents. In order to be their pride you must have done something good, like loving them, educating them (spiritually), feeding them, clothing them, covering them (prayer), helping them, being compassionate to them etc.

The bible says in Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and mother so that you’ll live a long time in the land that God, your God, is giving you.” While reading this you can read also that you need to give them something so they can honor you in, bring them up, learning them the ways of the Lord and giving them the space to serve before the Lord. While providing this, they will experience their own relationship with God. A kid can only honor what they know. When the Psalmist is writing in Psalms 119:9 how young people can keep their paths clean How can a young person stay on the path of purity?
 By living according to your word.” Further more the scripture also says that we need to keep the commandments in our hearts.

Proverbs 1:8 states the following :Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” This right here implies that both the father and the mother has a role in imparting Godly wisdom into their kids. Both has a task to fulfil. As it was my mothers task to bring me to church, teach me about God’s word and start me off right. Believe me, I wasn’t always as behaved as I am today. I can clearly remember one day  I was rebelling against her and she said in a very calm and serious way “I fear for you, do not forget that one day you will have your one kids and they will act out as worse or worser than you just did.” With other words what you sow you will reap. This right here got me thinking, had shaken me, woke me up. I didn’t want to be that kind of person, I wanted to change, that kind of change you experience when you meet God and has encounter Jesus following by living through the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

Many of the chapters in the book of Proverbs has this line written My son, keep my words and store up my commands within you.” (Proverbs 1:8 ; 2:1 (willingness) ; 3:1, 4:1,4 ; 5:1,7 ; 6:20 ; 7:1 ; 8:10-11, 32-34 ; and so one in the following chapters. If you seek for this line you’ll find it integrated in every chapter. This here shows us that as parents, we need to repeat our selfs more than ones, more than twice. Their whole life we need to impart in them with love, kindness, compassion, grace… You see they need to be willing to develop their zeal for God’s teachings, Word. They need to know to fear the Lord. Not by pressing on to them  just by saying you must, you must, you must, cause this will led to rebellion. After this they don’t want to listen anymore but by modelling it to them it will penetrate into their hearts. As we have been instructed with love, patience sometimes in parables, sometimes just by questions asked that puts us to thinking for ourselves what would Jesus do. Learn them to pray about it and find out what is God’s desire. Learn them to live a holy life led by the Holy Spirit.

You can see through generations how the Word of God is passed down, this legacy is passed down in the lineage of Jesus (Matthew 1:1-17) This is a legacy that is continuing to be passed down to others. We will start in our own home and from their we are to spread it out. That is why we can read in John 1:1-5 “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome[a] it.

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By repeating the Word on a daily basis it becomes part of a child it will be like a natural instinct. Like when somebody invites them to steal or do something against God’s will, they need to know what the bible says about stealing or any other topic of the matter. Kids need to be able and given the chance to develop that kind of attitude that comes in alignment with what the word of God says. Attitude is a certain behaviour to a certain subject/topic. You will act conforming that which you know and  have experienced. It is simply a settled way of thinking or feeling about something. 

As parent patience is they key word to instruct a kid. You see not every kid is the same and to be compared they have their own characters. They are unique and needs to be handled with care. They are innocent and fragile. They are in the molding process.

What does the bible says about spanking? (I don’t refer to abuse!!)  The books of Proverbs is a guideline for us to bring our children up Proverbs 13:24 ; 23:13-14 ; 29:15,17 ; 22:15. However it serves as good in our own relationship towards our Heavenly Father.

Practical teachings, this is a method I myself apply it’s a 7-steps plan provided by Focus on the family is: (optional but it is biblical though, everyone has their one ways and know their kids better) – my kids have the ages of four and six so this works perfectly in our home.

  • Clear warning: this a warning that certain behaviour will not be tolerated.
  • Establish responsibility: a child needs to own up his/her misbehaviour. This an example how this step can be achieved:”Bounty/Boopy, what did you do wrong?””Nothing. All the kids were running in the hallways of the church building.”

    “Try again. What did you do wrong?”

    “I ran into the hallways …”

    “I’m going to give you one more chance. What did we talk about?”

    “I’m not supposed to run in the hallways of the church building.”

    “So what did you do wrong?”

    “I disobeyed you.”

  • Avoid embarrassment: All this accomplishes is shame. Take them to a private place or wait until getting home. I had the learn this cause I was brought up in another form so never knew what the damage actually was. So now I just wait or if it is a serious matter I call them in a private place to talk about the matter or I just whisper into their ears.
  • Communicate grief: I don’t want to necessarily know that I am angry but I do want to communicate that I am disappointed in certain misbehaviour and that it should not happen again. Or I just let them know that my trust has been violated cause they knew better. You see as parent our self we live in a sinful world and when we fall short of the glory God looks a at us with a grieving heart just as a loving Father.
  • Flick your wrist: Spanking – It’s to sting, to provide a painful deterrent to misbehaviour, not to injure. “When you spank, use a wooden spoon or some other appropriately sized paddle and flick your wrist. That’s all the force you need. It ought to hurt — an especially difficult goal for mothers to accept —  and it’s okay if it produces a few tears and sniffles. If it doesn’t hurt, it isn’t really discipline, and ultimately it isn’t very loving because it will not be effective in modifying the child’s behaviour.”
  • Sincere repentance: After a spanking we call them my husband or I call them and this is the perfect time we can and will model love and let them sit over our lap, hugging and just talk about what happened. I don’t like spanking, so I often say sorry as they ask for forgiveness and excuses them self for the misbehaviour. These dialogues trains them up for a life relationship with God. A life of relating to God humbly and honestly as no other experience could experience.
  • Unconditional love: Some of my most intimate times with my children is after a moment of discipline, my husband can testify about this. I will call the kids, and tell them that I am sorry but that sometimes it is necessarily, I will tell them how much I love them and that I don’t like those kind of moments so together we can work on the missing things to prevent the same misbehaviour to happen a next time. This learns them that God forgives us for our sins but that we must really repent at the core of our heart to not repeat the same mistakes over and over.

This was the final writing of the series on kids. I hope you’ve enjoyed it as much as I have. I pray that these words will bring transformation and be a blessing of any kind to you. Through trial and tribulations but I made it an you made it.

Be blessed.

With loving regards,

Shaina Li Domitilia-Margaritha



The Lord remembers you

Hey there, Gods blessing be upon you. Today I just want to share  the thought that even when people try to make you feel bad about a situation/decision, they are actually helping you get stronger and to reach higher. You need the envious people in life, they serve as a push to get you where God wants you to be. They help maximize your potentials, to reach higher and to dig deeper.

You may ask; why are people envious? You may even think “I don’t have nothing they may already have!” But again this is a lie. You have the love of God and is grace that is sufficient for you. This causes people to see you as a thread. The scripture for today is based on Peninnah and Hannah, the two wives of Elkanah (1 Samuel 1) The second scripture is Psalms 126 5-6.

Today I’m not focussing on Samuel but on the rival that is going on between these two woman. You see in text you can read that Peninnah was to one able to give Elkanah sons and daughters. Hannah on the other hand her womb was closed by the Lord. She couldn’t have childeren, she was infertile. But because of this Elkanah knew this and loved Hannah very much he would give Hannah a double portion. (1 Samuel 1:5).

Now this is something that intimidated Peninnah, she knew and saw how Elkanah cared for  Hannah, how he loved her. And the fact that se couldn’t have childeren and that her womb was closed was a strong arrow to use against Hannah, to try to breakin’ her down. So Peninnah starts reviling  Hannah and this goes one for years. She provoked Hannah in order to irritate her. You see know a days people will get in fights. They get jealous of what others have that they don’t but Hannah had a lot amount of courage, class, integrity and dignity. This caused her pain, but the pain caused her to weep in-front of the Lord. People now a days will rival on social media, they even use songs to get back at each other. What Hannah teaches is to not lower your standards, it’s not worthy and doesn’t accomplish anything. Even though it hurt. (1 Samuel 1: 7-8)


Hannah was fasting and praying even though in the text saids that she wouldn’t eat. After the meal she stood up and went to the Lord’s house. After all these years I understand she had enough, I can understand her tears, she was tired of being provoked. Hannah was in her deep anguish, Hannah prayed, Hannah wept bitterly (heartbroken and downhearted), Hannah was in misery but then Hannah makes a vow. (1 Samuel 9-11) “If you consider me a son I will give him back to you all the days of His life, and no razor will be used on his head”. And Hannah kept on praying she was even misunderstood by Eli he thought she was drunk cause she was praying in her heart and her lips were moving without any voice coming out her mouth. (1 Samuel 1:12-16)

You see many times we vow before the Lord and then when we get what we wanted and then we forget the promise we made God and then you find out that it no longer the way planned. Example you ask God for a child, you get the child but you forget you promised God that  you will give him back and this child causes you pain, he his wandering the world, hanging out with bad crowds..

You ask God for a job and promise to give back what you earn. But then when you have the job you forget the promise and just to find out that your short on money, you can’t even remember where and when you spend the money. Maybe it is not going that well at the job anymore and you decide to leave or you’ve been fired, left without a source of income..

The blessing is complete and you may find joy in it when you stand on your promise. Let your yes, be yes…

See Hannah had heart for God even though she was not pregnant yet.. she still worshiped before the Lord. Then the went back to their home at Ramah and Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah and The Lord Remembered Her. In the course of time she became pregnant and gave birth to a son and calls him Samuel, saying, “Because I asked the Lord for him”. (1 Samuel 17 – 19) The Lord remembered her. The Lord blessed her with a child. The Lord can open your womb for new talents that helps you towards your destiny, He’s able to impregnate you with purpose.

Psalms 126: 5-6

Those who sow with tears
    will reap with songs of joy.
Those who go out weeping,
    carrying seed to sow,
will return with songs of joy,
    carrying sheaves with them

Hannah was a woman of her word, so she kept her word and dedicates Samuel to the Lord (1 Samuel 21- 28) whom God will use later on for great things. (following chapters)

Even when people cause you pain, they are helping you get where you need to be. God his purpose his being put inside of you. Every pain you feel and every tear you dropped before God, He will remember them all. What He has in store for you that love Him nobody can comprehend.

Be blessed.

Shaina Domitilia-Margaritha


Love – Marriage day 5

God bless you,

Today is the last day of these series “Love – Marriage”. As married couple you united as two singles (complete and whole as individual people) and become one. How to make purpose work. Both of you have a calling. As we know God created Adam, he had the leading role. He had to name all the living and take care of the Eden. Now God find that it is no good that Adam will be alone so He created Eve.

So Adam has his own purpose when God created him. When God created Eve He had created Adam a helper. (Genesis 2:18)  So as woman not only we are under the care (submission) of the man but we have to help. (Colossians 3:18-19) When I say help I mean, when he needs you to do something for him naturally (household, fulfil his desires or active in the ministry) and in the spiritually (prayer, encourage…) you have to do so.

My husband is called to be a Pastor but is currently active in ministering with the Praise and worship team. He is a musician (pianist). So I have to cover him constantly with prayer, because the attacks will come. When he has to perform/minister somewhere I have to be alert that he is being exposed and that all kind of people can approach him for all kind of personal reasons and not all those reasons are Godly intended. So he needs prayer constantly. As musician you need a righthand or someone that does take care of the sound. He needs me so he is learning me to do the sound. I’m doing sound because it is my thing but he needs me at it, so I’m willing to learn that.

Before every writing and after every writing for these series of “Love – Marriage” I consulted him, because I’m aware that I’m exposing us. So I don’t do anything without consulting he has to know and approve of the situation.

Romans 12:1-2 tells us that we have to be transformed in our thinking. As pagans we think I don’t need permission for doing anything. I will do as it pleases my own desires. Example look at Eve. 1 Timothy 2:14 it says “14 And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner”

As wife you have to respect your husband. So if he is the man of the house and the wife is submitted than respect has to follow otherwise you cannot speak of submission and honouring him in the position God put him. (Ephesians 5:31-33)

Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. (Romans 12:10)
As wife honor your husband so he feels that he is respected.

I know these writing are mostly dedicated to the woman, but as woman we are stubborn. Sometimes we think why should I, but this is the will of God. I didn’t say loose your voice, communication is a priority.

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Remember: “12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;[b] she must be quiet.” 1 Timothy 2:12

Be blessed. It’s my prayer that God will bring the two of you closer to each other. That their will be communication and understanding. That your thinking will be transformed and be the helper God created you to be.

With loving regards,


PS: It was an honor for me to do this. God trusted me with something big and I’m glad to have answer to His call.

If you have any petition (request) for some other topic of series comment and let me know I’ll be working on it. 😉

Love – Marriage day 4

God bless you,

In todays series I just want to make sure your married or maybe engaged to get married soon but very soon. I don’t want anybody to get tempted by these writings and go haunt themselves a husband or wife down for the wrong reasons.

Ok, here we go. I told you yesterday about some problems that marriage can face. I didn’t told all of although we experienced financial problems, miscommunication and maybe even thought at some point of quitting what God has brought together. I thank God today that His love and grace was with us. The beautiful thing for us was that when the one was down, the other one had a little bit of strength and patience to stretch in faith and prayer to uplift one and other. A life of prayer is necessary when you are married.

Today I want to share with you how to communicate love to your spouse and how to keep the flame burning despite the fact that the butterflies effect doesn’t always work after you been a while with each other.

Love day 4


Many times when you hear that something went wrong and the woman/man committed adultery is because something was missing they were getting attention elsewhere that they didn’t get at home. Make sure home is well taken care in every aspect. Sometimes you have to sit down talk things trough so you know the desires of your partner, pray about it and be one flesh in it. Make sure you have a compromise that fills both of you it’s desires.
Love own it’s own language and knows 5 compounds;

Passion: Sometimes sexual relationship is the last thing a woman thinks about. Why? Because she has a whole household to run, work, tension emotionally, tired and there are many reasons more to write. But actually sex is God design for a married couple, so it has to be on the priority list. It is important to fulfil the desires of the man. (1 Corinthians 7:3-5)
As you know you can pray for everything;  Woman pray that God strengthens you, revitalise you, gives you energy and a good attitude so that both of you can enjoy the moment! Men: (Proverbs 5:18-19)
18 May your fountain be blessed,
    and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
    may her breasts satisfy you always,
    may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”

Companionship: God thought is not good for the man to be alone and created the woman, a helper.. Then when God thought the should become one in flesh he sad in verse 24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:22-25)

Affection: (Songs of songs 2:6)
His left arm is under my head,
    and his right arm embraces me.” 

A touch feels good sometimes, a hug, a kiss, holdings hands while walking downtown.. Things that demonstrate attention and you are still in love. It doesn’t necessarily means that it has to lead to sex. Spice things up enjoy each other and be contempt to have each other.

Compassion: (Ephesians 4:29-32) I’ll highlight verse 32 32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” It is a request to be compassionate. Just follow the example Christ gave to us His bride!

The love of giving gifts: (Genesis chapter 27 till 32) I’m going to point a historical part out of the scripture even though this is an example of brotherly love its is important to give gifts; It’s the story of Esau and Jacob. Esau was mad at Jacob because he thought and was a fact that

  • He took his birthright, and now he’s taken his blessing
  • Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him.
  • Esau was planning to avenge himself by killing Jacob
  • So Jacob fleet to his uncle Laban in Haran. After Jacob stayed their for 7 years in order to get Rachel as wife, he got Leah instead because she was the oldest and the first that was supposed to get married. But Jacob loved Rachel so much that he had sacrificed another 7 years of work in order to get Rachel.
  • Now the time has come that the Lord said to Jacob, “Go back to the land of your fathers and to your relatives, and I will be with you.

What now happend was is that Jacob was still afraid of his brother so he sent messengers before him with all kinds of gifts to make things right. (Genesis 32:6–21, 33:4–11)

Not only in times of problems you bring gifts but a flower after work or something you know that will please your partner.

I’ll fess up I love the branch of Guess so every time I get something of Guess I’m pleased. But in the same way I love to surprise my husband with little gifts, it makes him happy and is feeling appreciated and respected.

I know this was long to read, but I hope it helped. Be blessed.

Remember do as it work for the both of you.

With loving regards,



Who am I..

God bless you,

Today I will talk a little bit of my childhood, my teenage years and my young adult years.

My childhood; I was born out of wedlock and “was” a seed of adultery. I am a only child. Now you can can ask why I say I was; well you know when I accepted Jesus He turned my past into a testimony. So now I am a daughter of the most high King and He is perfect and know what He does. God doesn’t make mistakes. As I grew up my mother did everything she could so that I can have everything I wanted. But as child (grownups also) you are delicate and as people reject you and speak lies about you it hurts even more.

So there I was fighting my way into the present trying to get acceptance. I grew up hearing that I am a “bastard” (not from my mom she always loved me tried to protect me from the hurting world but it still got to me), I had to hear from brothers and sisters in the church that my dresses where oldish and so one. But still through all of my hurt God used one person a old friend as I call him to get to me. He invited me to church. To the youth service. I met God, and God began to speak to me. I was so hunger for Him that I wanted more after a while of growing in church a man came up to me. He asked me if I wanted to host e radio program for kids I replied and saith yes. There I was a kid myself speaking to other kids. God knew He had to set me apart. God grace was with me in my pain so I can have a testimony a story to share.

My teenage years: I was now in high school I was pass over the fact that people will always have an opinion towards me, so I thought. Without knowing that the seeds they planted were growing roots inside of me. Sometimes I didn’t even want to listen to what my mom wants. I wanted my own ways. I was in church but with a rebellious attitude. We got into a fight so bad one time that I thought she is rejecting me to. I began to think she doesn’t want me, she is comparing me with my nieces and so one. That is the day I decided I wanted out of this life it was hard, so I thought. I took the knife… But once again Gods grace was already there. I got afraid I was still yelling tho but they manage to take away the knife. For a cooling down and distraction I got to stay with other family.

Adult years: In my teenage years I met my husband at the radiostation. I was thirteen at the time. He saw me maybe twice before but I didn’t noticed. He was attending another church than I was so I didn’t saw him often. Only on fridays I used to go for teenage programs now. When I noticed the interest and my interest was growing we began talking. I liked him a whole lot was smitten by Him. We talked before the dating and so one. After a while we began dating years went pass by. We know each other for 11 years so in order for me to tell you everything I will need to write a book. but for now I’ll just skip a part. We moved from our homeland to Holland. We lived together for three years got a our firstborn out of wedlock. and after these three years got married.

God was every step of the way I saw my own past and I know my present; one thing we had for sure that we didn’t want to reproduce our life’s.

It went wrong the spirit of fortification was present we had to deal with that. We grew up with out hearing to often that we are loved. We wore kids that only had our mothers. What do you do when you miss a part of you. Know that God’s grace is sufficient for you. Even when your mom or dad walks out on you God is there to tell you came in my child. I love you. Hear is your place take position. God has a plan for you.

Yesterday I told about you, you are beautiful unique and made in God’s image. Today I tell you who I am and tomorrow I will tell you what I do to make it better than the past.



Family matters, only God can restore and mend situations, the broken hearted and those who lack of love. If can do it for me He can do it for you.

Be blessed.

With loving regards.


Please, come back…

God bless you today,

I’ll be writing you today to reconnect, reconstruct and to restore your relationship with GOD. God’s love, grace and mercy is sufficient for you and me. You just have to believe that He can forgive more than you can realise. Maybe someone won’t forgive you that easily for lying to them, or for stealing something of them or even maybe kill a loved one of theirs. I don’t no who am talking to today, but if you are reading this and you think it’s for me or you know some one, share this word with them. If you wore in adultery, if you believed black magic can do some for you.. I don’t know what it is, that is the worst you think you have might done, what I do know is that God is waiting for you to just come back Home. The word of God is reaching to you, don’t turn your back. God is waiting for you. He has a plan with you, He can sort all things out for you, so don’t think I have sinned and He will not forgive me for turning my back on Him.

God loves you even when you wore rebellious and wouldn’t listen what your leaders or pastors at church told you about how you should handle. Even if you left your church for what reason it might be. That is of no importance to God, He only wants you to return home where He is and still can be find.

God is talking to you in Isaiah 55: 6-7 KJV

6 Seek ye the Lord while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near: 7 Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the Lord, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.

Bible is telling you to seek the Lord while He may be find. So you have the time now, reach back to Him. Don’t wait till tomorrow, just talk things through with God, He is an understanding God that wants to put you in the light and pull you of your darkness.

1 Timothy 1:15-16 (an example and testimony of Paul)

15 Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners—of whom I am the worst. 16 But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his immense patience as an example for those who would believe in him and receive eternal life.

King David named “a man after God own heart” even though he committed adultery and murder. Judas the on who trade Jesus for 30 piece of silver, received forgiveness. Are you getting the picture.. There is nothing God can forgive you from He is willing to do so, you just have to come back and say so and believe that is done. In fact it is done Jesus died at the cross for our sins so we might have eternal live in Him.

Declare today that you are free from sins, return back Home where your Heavenly Father is waiting for you and start over. Don’t let the devil whisper you that you won’t receive forgiveness, don’t let shame and guilt keep you from coming back home. All those things are taking care of in the Mighty name of Jesus Christ.

Please, just come back home. God is waiting for you and is ready to restore, to mend and to use you for His Kingdom.

I’m believing God today on this word Isaiah 55:11

so is my word that goes out from my mouth:
It will not return to me empty,
but will accomplish what I desire
and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.

Be blessed,

With loving regards,