Friend: “I’m fine”


Hey there this is a new week with new opportunities. May God bless you and that you’ll find favour in the sight of God and men. Today I’m going to talk about friends (friendship), it could be the next upcoming  series but for now just this one topic. Today’s topic is ” I’m fine “.

Sometimes we find ourself in a pit, in  a condition where we need help. We need people to carry us to Jesus, so that He can forgive us (again) and heal us from our  lameness. There is a remarkable story being told in the bible about a man that was paralyzed.

Mark 2:1-3 A few days later, when Jesus again entered Capernaum, the people heard that he had come home. They gathered in such large numbers that there was no room left, not even outside the door, and he preached the word to them. Some men came, bringing to him a paralyzed man, carried by four of them” . 

Some men came (four of them), assuming they were his friends, they came carrying the paralyzed man. First off all they knew the man, the knew his condition and together they knew he needs Jesus. So even the people had gathered in large numbers and the fact that there was no room left, not even outside the door, it didn’t stop them.

I must say I’m very happy with my surroundings. My husband covers me as I cover him. I have friends “Sisters” that know me for who I am and they are willing to stand by me whatever it takes. We cover each other in prayer, when we need to say something that may have hurt or we just didn’t like the way something happened, it doesn’t make us feel offended by it or less. We forgive, we seek options, we talk things through and we move one. We grow closer. We don’t just give up on the friendship because we didn’t like certain things. Everyday we have we get know each other better and know how every character is. I’m happy with leaders that will cover me in prayer and hear me out as I cover them in prayer and hear them out. (I guess I needed to get this part out as well) But coming back to the main topic the bible continues saying in

Mark 2:4-5 Since they could not get him to Jesus because of the crowd, they made an opening in the roof above Jesus by digging through it and then lowered the mat the man was lying on. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralyzed man, “Son, your sins are forgiven.”

So these four men made an opening in the roof and then lowered the mat the man was laying on. Again the recognised the condition there friend was in, they knew they couldn’t do nothing but to bring him to Jesus. The text says when Jesus saw their faith.. meaning that He didn’t see the paralyzed man his faith but all of them who were their with him. So this man is making an entrance through to roof thanks to his friends and now the continuation..

Mark 2:6-12 Now some teachers of the law were sitting there, thinking to themselves, “Why does this fellow talk like that? He’s blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?”

Immediately Jesus knew in his spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts, and he said to them, “Why are you thinking these things? Which is easier: to say to this paralyzed man, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Get up, take your mat and walk’? 10 But I want you to know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins.” So he said to the man, 11 “I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home.” 12 He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. This amazed everyone and they praised God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this!”

There will always be critic, you see Jesus was explaining Himself to the teachers, clarifying their thoughts! And the text continuing by saying that Jesus told the man to get up, to take his mat and to go home. And the man did all what Jesus commanded him an walked out in full view of them all. Everyone amazed and now praising God.

I love this story because:

  • Entrance: the man was lowered through to roof, because he was paralyzed. He couldn’t do it himself and needed friends who can bring him somewhere.
  • Exit: He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. (You see first he needed help but now he is fine. He can carry the mat himself

    “The mat used to carry me in, but now I am getting up and will carry it out.”

  • Entrance: He needed his friends to help him get to Jesus
  • Exit: Now he is fine, he doesn’t need help.

    “I need to be able to tell you I’m fine, without you getting offended by it”

This story could’ve be completely different if the friends were in the same condition as the paralyzed man. Who would’ve carry whom. None of them would have been able to help one and other.

When look at the process of the hospital;

  • It starts by you getting checked in  (by loved ones, people that care about your health),
  • The second thing you know you are being placed into a room with other sick patience and on that floor we are all sick.

Therefore you have nurses and doctors that are trying their very hard best to help you out of the condition you are in and up to your feed so you can get checked out and go home. It will cost the hospital a lot if you stay in for a long time, it may also cost another their life cause there is no place to check them in. So if we are sick and gather with sick people we are just a group of sick people. After a while it becomes normal that everyone associated to that group is someone with any kind of sickness

  • So that is why the final step is to get you in a good condition where you go home and be checked out of the hospital.

It is proven that if people are in environment where they feel at home they tend to get well faster or live longer than to stay into the hospital.

But to come back to the point where you to have friends that are able to set aside differences and needs to see you of good. And when you are good you now can help others get well as well.

It is not for nothing that Psalms 1:1 says Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers,..”

Mark 2;1-11

It is very important to know who you are connected to, what they can bring to the table! You need to be yourself while with them without it comprising the fact that when you need to speak up you can’t really say what is on your because it may affect the relationship. If we are friends and I can’t tell you about something that doesn’t fit, why we are friends than? It’s a question that needs to be considerate in every relationship.

Often you see in films and movies if an operation has been compromised that they need the abort the mission. In this case the Chief Commander is God and if you need to say something and you can’t because of the consequences you need to rethink the position you are in and abort the friendship. You are being held back and can’t grow and move forward like this. Sometimes it is necessary to let some people go, they fulfilled their purpose in your life.

If I can say something to you, without it making you quit me , you aren’t for me. And if I can’t correct you without you leaving me, you aren’t for me.

“Don’t hold on unto someone that wasn’t supposed to stay in your life forever.”

Are just going to keep on weeping on what was and isn’t or will you walk with what is?

“Don’t mourn longer than you need to. Move on..”

God has a plan and purpose for you (Jeremiah 29:11 “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”🙂 and it may notplay out the way you expected it. But remember Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.”

Thank God for friendship!

God bless you and keep you.

Shaina Li Domitilia- Margaritha

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“My Household” (series on kids)


Blessings, here am I in the early mornings writing to you again with the follow up on my earlier blog “Little imitators”. Today I am going to speak out of the topic “My household”, as long as you understand that this is a spiritual matter that needs to be point out. When I am writing to you is not out of the carnal point of view. For as the Word of God is revealed to me in secret, in the same way I will make it public and  bring it to you without the need to make it  acceptable for you. You see the Word of God serves as revelation, to alert, a wake up call, as for it is written in the bible “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” – Hebrew 4:12. It aches when we are not aligned with the Word of God. We tend to rebel against it, instead of leaving our own ways and turn to God, we go mad.

A vivid example of this is the story of king Saul. He was chosen by the people of Israel, but Saul misused his power, he stopped following God orders and did things as it pleased himself. Than there came David a simple boy that shepherd the flock. Everybody is singing and saying Saul killed thousands but David killed ten thousands.  King Saul is not pleased, he is jealous at the one God appointed and anointed to be the follow up. He is jealous at the one God qualified. So king Saul is now rejected by God and King David is installed. When we rebel against the will and word of God the bible describes it like sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry. (1 Samuel 15:23) Let’s be intentional about the word of God and stop pretending and live by the standards of God. Stop the slandering of God’s children for we must account to Him what we did with His flock. Then came King David he wasn’t perfect neither but God still used Him. The word of God came to him through the servant Nathan (2 Samuel 12:7, 9, 13 and following verses) it ached David, he was ashamed and he confessed. The confession King David made is readable in Psalm 51. The consequences were still there even though he was pardoned for his actions.  (I’m jumping through the text) but when you study the bible around the topic Eli – Samuel – Saul – David while reading it, it will be made clear. 

So when God speaks to me how to manage my household I must listen (those that have ears to hear, listen – than the Bible says don’t be only listeners of the Word but doers of the word, this means live by God’s word, I must follow in what He is saying, I must fear God and I must start in my own household.. I need to make sure that my offspring grows up and be like Samuel who picked David as the one God had chosen. He grew in wisdom and stature (1 Samuel 2:26). At a very young age he could here God calling out for him, the only thing he had to say is “Speak Lord for Your servant listens”. I need to make sure my kids grow up in wisdom and stature just as Jesus (Luke 2:52) at a young age He was found in the temple courts among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. The hunger of God’s word consumes me, as David saith “for zeal for your house consumes me, and the insults of those who insult you fall on me” Psalm 69:9. 

Timothy the spiritual son of Paul wrote in his letters the following 1 Timothy 3: 4-5 (Elders) He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full[a] respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)”  Now a days we feel sorry for the kids, in the community now a days you hear people say, a kid must be a kid, you find people against the fact the of kids learning to preach at small age or learning to serve God properly. We leave a lot of years go by while they are being touted elsewhere. There is no time left. Christ is coming, what have we done all these years. We are not supposed to grow children to sit, the must develop into disciples 

Then he writes again addressing now the deacons in vs. 12 “A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well.” 

As leaders, pastors or what the calling/ title may be, maybe we are just parens, but leaders and models in our own homes everything starts at home. The bible points out our duties as described in Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers,[a] do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”  This is the same as the writing as in Proverbs 22:6. I can’t minister to your home without ministering my own home. If I do so, this kind of attitude will be called a act of hypocrisy. I got to get it right first before I can help you. Whatever the arena may be I can’t help you with marital problems if I never been married and never experienced any kind of these problems and feelings. I cannot bring you to a place, where I myself never been there before. (spiritual)

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The consequence of the actions of Eli’s sons brought death to Eli and sons. Eli knew what his sons were doing, but didn’t address it. We need to take care of our kids and stand up for the next generation. Some things are nature but there are some things that are nurtured, we must cultivate children with what is pleasing to the Lord. There need to be preparation. Otherwise they’ll grow with lack of knowledge. The bible says in Hosea 4:6 my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge. “Because you have rejected knowledge, I also reject you as my priests; because you have ignored the law of your God, I also will ignore your children.” is this what we want? Don’t we have fear anymore for the things of the Lord? May God have mercy on us.. Jesus prayed to the Father and saith: Forgive them cause they don’t know what they are doing”

Experience: A while ago I was in the grocery store buying grocery and I was found standing in the back of the store looking at the salads, then suddenly I heard a warning call. As soon as I heard this I started praying in my inner self, cause I could not see what was happening due I was in the back of the store but I knew for sure something was happening I could feel my inner tranquility stirring inside me. That what was going on  at the time took place in the front at the main entrance/exit. I was thinking by myself Lord let me get home save to my husband and children. So while praying and gathering the goods I needed from the grocery I walked to the counter to pay for my grocery so I can get home safe. As I was approaching I saw two little boys around the age of 6 without any adult supervision, they were holding a pot of candy into there hands. They were shoplifting and the warning call was from all the people standing at the counter who saw them about to leave the store without actually paying for the candy pot. So they put those two boys in the corner and called another co-worker to handle the situation. They took the boys into the office and called for their parents. I was so shocked that I thought I need to get home fast and have another prep talk with my kids. Even though they know they are not suppose to steal or take something that is not paid for I wanted to ensure it. But the more I thought about the situation I was thinking where were the parents, the adults around that time. Are we tryin’ hard enough to see our kids start off right. What is it that we are teaching them that when we are not around they can put into practice and know that is not permitted to take something without paying for. Are we praying enough for them, are we spending enough time with them, are we hearing them out.

See I’m not perfect I’m full of rules ugghh (a part of how I was educated myself). As I start a conversation with my daughters and ask them about things they will say: “we are sometimes afraid to come tell you cause we know that you may get mad”. It is that moment that I need to balance and seek for a solution that will help them to get it right the next time and be open about it. I need to meet them in their needs and function behaviour, I need to re-evaluate myself,  I need to find the way to communicate to them until the point they know certain behaviour is not permitted, but even if that is not the case right now or it didn’t go as planned, ok so be it, the next time we can all do better. It takes both parties to involve so they can evolve to be as we are called to be.

Instructions for Christian Households

18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

21 Fathers,[a] do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

  
Biblical description of a household according the word of God: man – wife and children. A household needs to be God centric. Your kids need to reflect your heart not your hinderances. Let’s not be so busy preaching that we can’t see what is going on. Let’s not loose sight on that what really matters. (spiritual vision) Let us not be consumed by our one things that we forget that the glory belongs to God.

As the ones responsible for the little ones we need spiritual vision, we need to hear from God. Never confuse the power of the Holy Spirit for the spirit of Beelzebul. It is because Jesus knew what was in their hearts He said to them (meaning the Pharisees) written in Matthew 12:22-30 “25 Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. 26 If Satan drives out Satan, he is divided against himself. How then can his kingdom stand? 27 And if I drive out demons by Beelzebul, by whom do your people drive them out? So then, they will be your judges. 28 But if it is by the Spirit of God that I drive out demons, then the kingdom of God has come upon you.

29 “Or again, how can anyone enter a strong man’s house and carry off his possessions unless he first ties up the strong man? Then he can plunder his house.

Prayer: Hollow be Thy Name. Lord I come before you today presenting you my household, do with us as It pleases You and do with us as see fit to do. We are merely people that wants to be used by You. Today I cancel every word that is spoken against me and my family. I rebuke every satanic power or any spirits that has been send my direction and I return them back to sender in the name of Jesus. I declare that my household is under Your management run by Your HOLY SPIRIT and covered is by the blood of Jesus Christ, whom died at the cross so we could receive the gift of salvation that was given by Your grace.! I ask You to surrounded us by Your guardian angels. Thank You Lord, all this I ask in the name of Jesus, Amen.

The word of God is, need to be, will be the foundation of my house. As for me and my house we will serve the Lord.. We humble ourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift us up in due time. Next topic will be released on Friday “My legacy” (series on kids)

With loving regards,

Shaina Li Domitilia-Margaritha